I've just been in the last few months getting myself so worked up worrying and thinking if my life is good, are my friends people I want to be with, am I happy, who am I, etc. And thinking about what kind of person I am. Most of my friends are girls so I get worried they are going to turn me gay (some people think I am...but I'm not...just really shy and conceded) or more feminine since I am around them so much. Since they are girls they go shopping quit a bit, but I just come along for the food and electronic stores and stuff. Can someone just tell me if it's normal? Or should I change just to make me seem more "normal" in other people's eyes? I just worry and think about every aspect of my life.
2007-10-19 13:45:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The teenage years are the years best suited to figuring how who you are and where you want to go. Earlier than that and you can't comprehend the world well enough to wonder about that stuff or make good decisions if you do. Later than that, and you end up living in Mom's basement.
The time has come to think about your life and the lives of those around you and the world in general and figure out where you want to fit in that world. You won't fit there quite yet, but if you start working on it, then you will.
2007-10-19 13:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by Waynez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is. I never really had many friends. A couple were girls and about four were guys. I am a lot more "girly" than most guys. I like candles and explosives. Stuffed animals and toy cars. I watch anything from The land before time to The terminator and The shining. Well I'm not very popular, it seems you want to fit in. Be you're self I guess. And it is normal to be confused. Well I denied being bi for quite some time. Don't worry about other people. Sadly though I'm still in the closet. I don't usually try to fit in, but yes that also has consequences, you don't get treated as well sometimes. Well I hope I have not depressed you more
2007-10-19 21:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First it's normal to like to be around girls at your age.
However, being around girls, you may be picking up one of their traits, and that is.... YOU THINK TOO MUCH!!!
Some psychologists have explored that aspect of young female life and found that many girls do exactly what you're doing, frequently fretting about a myriad of details of their lives, their futures, or their pasts.
All to the exclusion of living in the NOW.
Screw what other people think of you - the experience you'll get being friends with girls will very likely be of great help in the very near future. Well... unless you start shopping for thongs, dresses and frilly tops! ;->
2007-10-19 20:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by HyperDog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to worry about; the teenage years are defined by self-exploration and tumultous emotions. Don't worry about confusion and self-doubt- everyone your age has them. Rest assured, you'll grow out of them soon enough.
Never change yourself just to seem "normal." Normal is defined by society; a perfectly "normal" person will never stand out in a crowd. You should let people discover your true personality!
2007-10-20 01:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you and the questions you're asking yourself usually continue throughout life at one time or another, for one reason or another. People grow, change, worry and wonder. It's just the way human beings function but sometimes we can hide our true selves from others when we're afraid of being judged or condemned - we can even hide from ourselves. Now, it's that interesting?!
2007-10-19 20:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You actually sound very well adjusted and just going through some teenage angst. It's hard but it's oh so normal. Never at any point in your life should you change yourself for anybody, that's good advice.
2007-10-19 20:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. That's normal. Just go with the flow and worry later.
2007-10-19 20:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ratters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Ryan, Im Brian
Man you hit a soft spot,
Dont change who you are just for other people. Their not your friends if they question who you are. ,
I really wish Deep Down in my Heart,that people would realize
that Being gay is not something one chooses,why would someone choose to be persicuted every day of their life?You cant emagin what its like to have to hide who you are. from family,friends,ext. You live your whole life a lie,I hope my friends dont see this,But i wanted every one to know Please Be who you are,Screw every one else,...
OK, yours truely-mailbox_5
2007-10-19 21:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by mailbox_5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually very normal. I felt like i didn't fit in at all during my 4 years in high school.
2007-10-19 21:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by Earl R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal honey, that's what being a teenager is all about, discovering who you are. Never alter your true self just to "fit In" Be true to yourself.
Best wishes!!!
Brigid
2007-10-19 20:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by Brigid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋