im married for almost 2 yrs.. and i still dont get along with my husband, we always fight for small crap because i cant understand him and he dont understand me either.. is divorce is an answer?
2007-10-19 13:16:49 · 27 answers · asked by not_so_sure 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are the only one that can tell if divorce is the right answer. But to me it doesn't sound that severe. Counseling is always the best medicine if communication is the problem. Plus it can open you both up and possibly find out the underlying issues that cause you problems. Many experts say that the first few years is always the hardest for every married couple. If its meant to be then you will stick it out. Have faith and trust your heart. Deep down you have the answers you need.
2007-10-19 13:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you love aabout him when you first married? See if you can get back to that. Sometimes the daily pressures of life make us take the one we love for granted. Set aside one night a week fo 'Date Night' where it is just the two of you, sitting down and talking. It can be at home where you cook a special dinner for the two of you, open a bottle of wine and light candles for ambiance. The importnat part is to talk ABOUT the two of you, not work, not kids (if you have any), not the stress in your life but how you feel about each other and where you want to be and how to get there. If you have different agendas now is not the time, sleep on it. Discuss it at another time. If you both seem to be going in different directions and can't come to an understanding, then consider divorce. But give it all you can first because you married this man for a reason. Try to get back to that.
2007-10-19 13:27:39 · answer #2 · answered by AtLarge 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to ask you a question first!
Did you love each other at all?
Every couple needs time to get to know one another you don't just give up!
To keep a marriage going it takes work on both parts! Calm and understanding is a must in a relationship. I don't know what do you expect of each other so it is difficult to give you an advise, but you just don't give up for things like these!
The problem now days is that couples give up to easy on each other, when the going gets tough, they get going!
Divorce is not the answer! Forgiveness is!
2007-10-19 13:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by bornfree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the person above, if there isn't any love, why make the both of you miserables? But also, who starts the fights? That could be a BIG issue! Talk things through first, before a divorce, if possible, get marriage counseling, but save divorce as a last resort!
Best of luck!
2007-10-19 13:22:29 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny Lovegood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No divorce is not the answer at least not before you try your best to fix it. It was something there that you two had to get married to each other. Go back to that time and rekindle what it was. There cannot be two Kings on the throne there has to be a King and a Queen and Mrs. Queenie submission is not a dirty word nor is being humble. Try flipping the script, do something different. Men always love sexy this will soften them every time. Best to you.
2007-10-19 13:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by Titus12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As time goes on...it will become clear to you what you need to do.
Just some advice, do NOT get pregnant...go to a free clinic and get on birth control. [You don't need to complicate matters anymore than they already are. If you don't get along...sharing parenthood will be even a bigger disappointment that will last a lifetime...even if you get divorced].
If possible get some training or education that you can use to help you earn a living on your own. When you are not financially independent you tend to accept situations that are less healthy...in this relationship and in future ones.
This is very good advice that has proven itself.
That is my BEST ANSWER!
2007-10-19 13:32:24 · answer #6 · answered by Steve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really want to just jump to saying divorce him. If you married him then there must have been some love there at some point. I think that the two of you should try marriage counseling. If that fails then divorce him.
2007-10-19 13:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by Aspire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This actually happens in most of the families. Confront your husband. Share your toughts but do not blame him for everything. Maybe you too doesn't give in at times probably.
Try to calm whenever problem arise. Explain later to him once he's cool. Of course the life is yours and decision is yours too. Try to seek for counselling instead. Do not confused yourself. Found out does he too thinking of getting a divorce too? Then make a decision.
2007-10-19 13:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by Sha S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your taking divorce then you will have to give more info.
take what people say here into account but at the end of the day, It's all up to YOU!
Maybe you should talk to him first, that would be a better answer, after that then counciling, if your not happy, and hurt, or angry after that still, then maybe you should seperate, just think about it A LOT!
If you love this person then, you should be will to do alot of things to keep them.
2007-10-19 13:21:25 · answer #9 · answered by me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married 13 years and I'm in the same situation as you and divorce may be the answer but starting over again that's the problem do you really want to start again,
2007-10-19 13:20:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋