I got into a debate with my mom on this.
She says that if a man is willing to spent $1000 on a ring for you, it means he's really committed and your marriage is likely to last longer.
I'm not a materialistic person, so I could care less how much a man spends on my ring.
I'd take a pretty $20 zirconium ring over a tiny $900 diamond any day.
Plus, I don't think it has any relation to the strength of your marriage.
In fact, if 2 people can love each other despite the price of the ring, wouldn't their love be STRONGER sine it's not based on material wealth?
What do you think?
2007-10-19 13:04:35 · 24 answers · asked by Kar 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The price of your engagement ring relates to the strength of your commitment about as much as the price of your car indicates your skill at driving
2007-10-19 14:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by sammael_coh 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is crap! The amount someone spends on a engagement ring only means that the guy has money...or wants to appear to have money...I am like you....I am not materialistic and would rather wear a $20 zirconium ring over a $900 diamond if the reason for purchasing the expensive ring was to impress me....You don't even need a ring to prove your love to another!!
2007-10-19 13:10:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
my husband did not spend a dime for my engagement ring. I got the gold wedding band that his mom wore after she started nursing because she could not wear her diamond. then after we were married for 9 years he bought us a matching set for $300 and gave it to me for our anniversary. we have been married now for almost 17 years and have 3 wonderful kids. of course we have had our ups and downs but we still love each other as much if not more as the day he asked me to marry him. a ring is just a symbol to show others that you are married it has nothing to do with anything else. The price of the ring should not matter at all and if it does then the marriage is based on more of a materialistic thing then on love. to me if a person says I have to have a $1000 ring on my finger to marry you then what will happen in 10 years if something happens and they can't work and are broke. will the marriage last through that? probably not because all they are thinking about is money.
2007-10-19 13:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by brianswife 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The price of an engagement ring doesn't mean crap when it comes to marriage unless you have a gold digger as a girlfriend. If two people love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together that is all that matters, the ring could come out of a gum ball machine. It's what is in the heart and soul that makes or breaks a marriage.
2007-10-19 14:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by BreakingHeart 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do ppl always wanna put a price on love? I agree wit you i'd take a soda tab over a $1000 ring if I knew my b/f really loved me. It wouldnt matter abiut the cost of it,what would matter is the meaning and love that comes with it. All the richest ppl in the world are not the happiest ppl.
Look at the stars of today one minute they are sporting multimillion dollar rings and next month the are divorcing. So money means nothing with out true love to go with it! Love conquers all, Money rules all evil!
Stick to what you feel your mom has a little to learn about relationships in todays times.
2007-10-19 14:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by mousey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are alot smarter than your MOM. The amount does not equal the degree of love. I would have been happy with just a gold band at the wedding. I'm past all that. Now, my husband did give me a really beautiful ring, and that was HIS choice. He picked it out, and we had a beautiful engagment. I would not trade that night for anything. But, the ring didn't make that night special... it was my husband. He was nervous, sweet, and he cried when he gave it to me... that's worth more than any diamond.
I've seen alot of freakin rocks on some of my friends, and they are so miserable. Money can't buy love.
2007-10-19 13:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by lester 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are right on this one, unfortunately your mom represents a very common mindset. My engagement ring is a heart-shaped sapphire with filigree and diamond chips, not very expensive but more "me" than a diamond solitaire ten times as expensive would be; it's unique and I LOVE it. You're absolutely right that the relationship could be stronger since it's not based on material wealth, your mom is just stuck in a traditional mindset that gets weaker with each passing generation. People are getting more and more wise to what's REALLY important.
2007-10-19 13:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by wolfdancer 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you!!! a guy does not need to spend hundreds of dollars on a ring to show that he loves someone. My husband bought me a ring that was very low cost since we first got married he couldn't afford one. Then one year 10 years later he surprised me with a nice more expensive ring. To me it didn't matter. We were happy before the ring and still happy now!
2007-10-19 13:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you think of your commitment to someone by how much you spend on a ring is EXTREMELY shallow.
If your marriage lasts, it's because you make a commitment to love and honor your spouse and WORK HARD to make the marriage work.
NOT by how much you spend on a ring. There are people who get married who don't have rings.
2007-10-19 13:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I love your attitude about this....I agree with you. Tell your mom to look at US weekly, People, and OK! magazine. Filled with celebrities who have spent hundreds of thousands of weddings, rings, gifts and their weddings last less than 3 years. ...I know people who are married and don't have wedding rings and they STILL love each other beyond the call of duty. Love that you have should not be based on the material things only the heart.
2007-10-20 12:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by MadameJazzy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋