I’m a junior in high school and almost 17 years old. And I am really tired of my parents butting into my personal life. Its my choice if I choose to have sex, not theirs! Its my choice if I choose to stay over at my boyfriend’s house for the night! Its my choice if I want to go out and party! Its not like I’m even getting drunk every night (I only came home drunk once; it was actually the morning after I just came home with a hangover which isn’t even bad. I hate hangovers so I never get drunk now) They’re so overprotective and it seems like I’m always grounded for every little thing I do. I got grounded because I slept over at my boyfriend’s house! I mean, how ridiculous is that! Its no big deal! My parents don’t even know if we are having sex so they can’t just assume! (I have only had it once this past summer was my 1st time) Pretty soon I am going to be going away to college and they’re going to have to let go of me! They need to see that I’m not there little girl anymore its not 1995 anymore, and they need to realize this! It just really frustrates me. I get grounded for every little thing I do! Have a party/go to a party; get grounded! Stay at my boyfriend’s house; get grounded. Go over on my texts; get grounded. Stay out until 12 (which isn’t even late); get grounded. Its like they always need to control me and honestly I can’t wait until I go to college so I don’t have them on my back 24/7. Does anyone else have this problem?
2007-10-19 11:51:55 · 70 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok...lets get this straight...i said i have only had sex ONCE...so i'm not a slut ok! also, i never said i go out every weekend and get drunk! that only happened once but my parents think that because it happened once it happens every weekend! so its not like i'm gonna go to college get drunk every night and not even remember what i did the night before!
2007-10-19 12:08:33 · update #1
it was a friday night when i slept over at my boyfriends house! its not like it was a school night! its not like we had sex the whole damn night! also, u people assume i'm a sl*ut! i have only had sex once in my whole life! and believe me i would never get pregnant in high school! besides, i used protection!
2007-10-19 12:12:38 · update #2
i know i won't get pregnant because i'm not like some of the whores in my school that have had sex like 100s of times! i use protection and i don't think i am going to get so drunk that i don't even remember having sex...i'm not that bad!!!
2007-10-19 12:23:54 · update #3
It's their house; their rules, once you turn 18, you can move out & make all the bad decisions you want.
2007-10-19 11:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 16⤊ 0⤋
Alright, everything you just said...happens to soooo many chicks at your age. And yes, at your age it is your choice what you do, but FORTUNATLY, your parents still have a say. If they didn't ground you, if they didn't nag, and if they weren't on your back 24/7, what do you think you would be doing right now. You're not even 17 yet and you've already had sex, I must say 16 is better then what I've been hearing, 12 years old is Ridiculous. I know I'm repeating exactly what your parents probably say all the time but, They do it because they love you, and they want you to grow up to be a decent woman. Seriously, when I was 16 I wasn't allowed boyfriends, I wasn't allowed going to a movie with my friends because my Dad didn't trust me that there would be no boys...I'm now 19, I recently moved our of my house finally. But, no joke, a few months ago my Dad still tried to ground me for talking to boys on the phone. Your parents could always be worse. You really should enjoy their company while it lasts, once your gone to collage you'll miss it. I miss my parents like crazy and I've been gone for a month & a half.
2007-10-19 12:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by shanna 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wow, I forgot that 17 year olds know everything. lol
Guess what, you are a bit mistaken. Just a little.
Parents are responsible for you and what you do until you are 18 not 17 or 16. They can lock you in the house and as long as they feed you and clothe you they won't be arrested for abuse.
Too bad they didn't discipline you when you were younger or not spoil you so much or you might not be the little biotch you seem to be turning into.
They know if you spent the night that you had sex. No big leap to get there.
When you go off to school I hope you make it through without catching some deadly or permanant disease. I'm sure you will get knocked up since you want to get back at them so bad. So good luck to you.
too bad you don't see that they are trying to help you. Oh well, you'll see it when you are 23 and have 4 kids with no degree.
2007-10-19 11:59:19 · answer #3 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
They absolutely should be on your case 24/7. It's a dangerous world out there, and you seem more interested in being "in control" of your own life, which you aren't. When you're 18, they can't say much, but you're 17, so tough luck.
You think your parents are strict? Try mine: 11 PM curfew until I was 18, not allowed to date until 17, much less stay over at a boy's house. I got a curfew extension 3 months before my 18th. If I had come home drunk, I would have been grounded for a month, the car would've been taken away indefinitely and homecomings/proms/parties would not have been in my schedule.
Staying over is a big deal, especially when you get pregnant. I assume that you're obviously not being responsible using birth control AND condoms, and if your parents were as strict as you claim, there would have either been a serious lecture or an appointment.
I'm glad my parents watched out for me. Most kids' parents don't. You should be grateful that your parents love you enough to bother with grounding and punishment.
No one at 17 is responsible enough to make their own decisions without being extremely grown up. Believe me, you're luckier than most kids.
2007-10-19 12:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by jedimorgana 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
"Its my choice if I choose to stay over at my boyfriend’s house for the night!"
No, it's not. You're only 17.
"Its my choice if I want to go out and party! Its not like I’m even getting drunk every night (I only came home drunk once; it was actually the morning after I just came home with a hangover which isn’t even bad. I hate hangovers so I never get drunk now)"
Their 17 yr old came home drunk once. Hmmm...why would they have been upset? Duh.
Your parents are being protective - not overprotective. You are their daughter and it is their job to protect you from things you are not mature enough deal with on your own yet.
When you go away to college, you will have the freedom to make your own decisions. Until then, suck it up. You are their child. Too bad.
"Have a party/go to a party; get grounded! Stay at my boyfriend’s house; get grounded. Go over on my texts; get grounded."
These are called consequences. Either change your behaviour, or get used to being grounded.
2007-10-19 12:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I guess I think it's within the authority of the parent of a sixteen year-old to give a curfew, expect you not to spend the night at your boyfriend's, or to expect you to abide by the law of the land by not drinking alcohol. I hope I have a more open relationship with my daughter when she's your age so we can talk about these things, but having sex is a big deal. It involves strong emotions, first of all, and it sounds to me like you haven't really thought it through. I would also suspect you don't use birth control or protection against STDs. Anyway, you're right, you'll be out of the house in a year and a half. Kids your age are growing so fast that you may actually be more mature by then and better able to make decisions that are in your best interests.
ADD: I just read your additional comments, and I bet your parents are as anxious for you to turn 18 and move out as you are.
2007-10-19 12:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Youre right, its not 1995 anymore. This day and age a 17 YR old girl cant just walk around late at night because she will come up missing!!! Watch the news sweetheart!! I used to be the same way as you! Im only 21, but i grew up real fast when i had my son. When you have children you wont want them staying out all night drinking!! My mom let me stay out until 4 am when i was 15, that means she didnt care! How are your grades?? If they are bad, then that is a reason why parents are more strict. GROW UP!!!!! Your 17 so its THEIR choice if they want you to have sex, Is THEIR choice if you can stay over at your b/f and its THEIR choice if you can go out and party!! You probably dont even have a job!! Next year you can do whatever you want to do...oh wait.... i bet your parents are paying for your college!! BE GRATEFUL!! AND STOP ACTING LIKE A SPOILED TEENAGER!
2007-10-19 12:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by ~So much FUN~ 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, I agree and disagree. I guess it is your choice for some of those things, but for others, it really isn't. It can BE your choice to stay over at your boyfriends if you choose not to come home. I know parents can be difficult, but honestly they have your best interest at heart. Plus, they pay the bills, provide food, shelter, etc etc so I think they get to make some of the rules.
If I had come home after sleeping at my boyfriends house at your age the door would have been locked.
If you want to stay at your bf's house - move out. If you want to have as many texts as you want, get your own phone.
I totally know how you feel b/c I was there, but the "hard stuff" they put me through turned me into a well-adjusted person with a great job and great friends and a great boyfriend ...plus a good relationship with my parents.
Maybe what you could do is slowly start being "super responsible" - like offer to pay for your texts and come home early, etc, etc and then slowly start asking for more freedom... they'll probably give it to you b/c you're a good kid.
2007-10-19 12:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by ladylove 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, parents are annoying, I'm a parent and I was annoying too. I was going to tell you all the consequences of all the stuff you want to do, but then I remembered thats the last thing you want or need to hear. Try to do what they want for now....if you truly can't then get a job, support yourself and move out. There are 17 year olds who are responsible enough to take care of themselves, house themselves, feed themselves, clothe themselves, buy their own car, insurance, and rent an apartment while finishing highschool. If you can and want to do those things do it, be your own hero. Or recognize you may just need to wait until you are in college, (maybe funded by the evil parent) to spread your revolutionary wings. Maybe you could have a conversation about the 24/7 issue but you are still "really" young and spending the night at your boyfriend's house??? What says mature about that? Like you two are going to be permanent, not giving it away for free are you?? And the texts, what business is it of theirs if you go over since you must be paying for them, right?? SORRY I just get impatient with persons who can't see how good they have it. I know personally lots of kids your age who would love to have parents in their life and they do need that job and have to pay for everything they have. So enjoy what you have, college is right around the corner. Your parents really do love you.
2007-10-19 12:14:27 · answer #9 · answered by b w 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're way too young. While you live under their roof, it's their rules. Which, by the way, aren't unreasonable. It is not your choice if you stay at your boyfriend's house, it is up to your parents. 12 IS late. Staying at your boyfriend's house IS a big deal....I can't go on, there's too much wrong with your question. Everything you've said highlights you as a little girl that's spoilt and doesn't appreciate what her parents do for her.
Edit: And now you're throwing a tantrum, proving that you are indeed too immature. Besides, you do realise that most girls that get pregnant in high school don't plan to do so? Accidents happen. No contraceptive is 100 % effective. If you can't handle the possibility of pregnancy, then you shouldn't have sex.
2007-10-19 11:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I am not going to lecture you, but you do need to understand this. You have to live with the choices you make in life. Your parents love you and don't want anything bad to happen to you. I have a 14 yr old daughter, and we talk about everything. We have a great relationship, she can tell me anything. I would have a problem with her staying overnight at her boyfriends house at 16, because I know if she were put in a situation like that, sex WILL happen. But she tells me that she will wait until she is married.
Parents tend to overreact to alot of things. I am very lenient with my daughter and try not to overreact. I don't want my daughter to make mistakes in life, but really, this is how kids learn - from their mistakes (well some kids, hehe!).
There's really nothing that you CAN do about your parents being overprotective, that IS what parents do. I know I am annoying at times, that IS what parents do. If we didn't protect our kids and annoy our kids, then we are sending a message that "we don't care what you do - do what you want".
So, just consider that my answer to your question is from a parent's point of view. I truly and honestly believe that respect goes both ways for parents and teens.
2007-10-19 12:46:51 · answer #11 · answered by eZonis34 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋