He's 17 and in his first relationship. The girl is polite, nice, and has him wrapped around her little finger. Nothing has happened yet, and I don't want it to. I don't want him to father a child, form permanent ties with this girl, and make getting an education so much harder.
If I insist they break up, they'll still see each other at school. My son will resent my intervention for the rest of his life. What to do?
2007-10-19 10:59:54 · 12 answers · asked by TX Mom 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My information about her character came from my son. She confided in him and I pried it out.
2007-10-20 13:49:08 · update #1
She told him her sexual history. To me, someone who's been around, at 16 years old, is someone who has had sex, regular and oral, been pregnant and miscarried and snuck it all past her parents.
2007-10-21 04:05:02 · update #2
just make sure you educate him on using protection...thats about all you can do if you dont want to push him away and push him towards her! eventually they will break up and he will find someone better. he has to find out for himself the kind of person he wants to be with and it may take a few "bad" girls first for him to figure it out but you have to let him decide.
2007-10-19 11:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by blondie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How do you know she has been around and what do you call "been around"?The truth is that some girls are sneakier than others and their parents think they are perfect angels and everything is hush hush. These are the worse kind in my opinion. Most girls nowadays have been around at least once or twice. I wouldn't judge her as long as she treats him good and you see no signs of anything being fishy. Those girls that have been around and been used by men sometimes make the best girlfriends and wives. Just my opinion.
2007-10-20 23:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by wundawoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it but no matter what you do, he will still try to do it behind your back. The only other option is to talk to him. Not like a "mother" but as a friend. Hear him out and see if can understand your point of view. At any rate, he will stop at nothing to see this girl until....she breaks his heart or he's tired of her. Try talking since trying other measures will make matters worse. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-10-19 18:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by Passion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but when he turns 18, his mistakes are what makes him learn and grow into a man.
Right now, as much as you want to interfere, matters of the heart are not really the kind of thing you can control without him feeling bitter about it. Explain to him about birth control, abstinence and your own thoughts about love and the mistakes you made in relationships when you were his age.
When she breaks his heart, he will learn. Learning always happens too late for those who won't listen.
2007-10-19 18:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Malina 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
buy him condoms and if he gets hurt its his choice not yours. You have to let him learn how would you like it if he resented your partner? And you dont know this girl how do you know she has been around have you seen her do this? Or are you going off rumours because i was getting called a slut from when i was 14 and i hadn't even lost my virginity until i was 16 and nine months.
2007-10-19 19:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this age you can't really demand he do what you say. If she got control, than sad to say your "momma's boy" son has found a new momma to control him.
How to prevent him or better yet scare him off sex.
Show him a video of a woman giving birth. Let him see what happens and how sex does make a child, a real life.
Show him a video of what AIDS does to the human body. How it kills people.
Hopefully the shock and awe of it will make him think twice.
2007-10-19 18:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by Jdude 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Let your son know that if he makes a decision to have sex with this girl, ask if he is ready to be a father. I am sure that he will change his mind.
2007-10-19 18:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by eZonis34 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW.. Did she tell you she has "been around"??? did you follow her "around"... Just a guess here, but he is your baby boy, and NO GIRL is going to be good enough for him in your eyes. Yu should be happy he likes a "good girl" and leave them be. Oh ya, If she has "been around" she has probably "been" with your son by now too.
2007-10-20 19:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, 17 is a lil late to start teaching not to have sex, your best bet is to hand him a box of condoms. Hate to say it, but..
2007-10-19 20:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still is in your house.
And you can tell him what not to do still.
Better belive it.
As far as him having sex, if you know shes been around, he definatly dose. unfortunate to say thats probably one of the main reasons he is dating her.
If he hasnt done anything yet that is.
Ask him what hes up to dating her and why he wants to date someone who could lead him down the wrong path.
2007-10-19 18:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by robertt223 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋