asking you? It was seven years ago.I was pregnenat with my first child.Would you stay with a man like that?
2007-10-19 10:34:29 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
very disrespectful. He would be ramming it into his luggage on his way out the door
2007-10-19 11:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by uz 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you are 7 years into the relationship as your question indicates; and it's still bothering you, talk to him. He may have a good defense (probably not though because as most women know there is a vast majority of men who think with the wrong head). Talk it over with him, and if after 7 years you haven't let the one incident go ( or even if it was more than one incident) try dealing with it the best you can in the most productive way you can. Stay or leave is your decision alone.
Good luck
2007-10-19 10:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by femalepit 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am not buying it. I can you not know? What were you doing sleeping? You didn't tell us the whole story now did you? No you did not.
You say this happened seven years ago and now you bring it up. I see traumatisation from the past, yes it can happen, still how can you not know, unless you were sleeping. Call me cold or whatever I don't feel sorry for you one iota.
As for me I just love it when my husband does that to me.
As for your child it would have never hurt him, the human male does not have a penis the length of a zebra. Now a male zebra can cause a female to abort, because of the length of his. A human no way.
2007-10-19 12:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd say that if you have let this incident fester and burn inside of you for seven years, holding it in and not talking about it with him or with anyone else, and now you're speaking about it with strangers, you probably ought to seek therapy. I'm not being sarcastic, I'm quite serious. Obviously this is something that is deeply upsetting to you. Perhaps you repressed the incident for quite some time, and now it is finally resurfacing, and needs to be dealt with. You obviously feel what he did was a violation of your body and your psyche. And these things take time to heal. It may help you greatly to discuss this with a therapist. Perhaps there are other things you need to talk about (pertaining to your life or relationships) as well.
Good luck to you!
2007-10-19 11:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Seven years ago!! What has he done since? Did he do it to hurt you, or was it in the heat of passion. I think you should go to a therapist and try to resolve some old problems. Good luck
2007-10-19 10:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Hirise bill 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
um did he force u too have sex or did u know thats what was going to happen and if ur asking after 7 years it doesnt seem like that big of a deal and if it was ur husband then whats the problem oviously if ur still with him u must not of been to tramiatized
2007-10-19 11:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by nikki 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
FIRST AFTER 7 YEARS WHY ASK NOW? SECOND I DON'T UNDERSTAND HIM JUST RAMMING IT INTO YOU, WERE THERE NO PANTIES? DIDN'T YOU FEEL ANYTHING LIKE TOUCH BEFORE THE RAM? I DON'T GET IT. DID YOU ASK HIM WHAT WAS THAT ABOUT? RE-PHRASE YOUR QUESTION. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO CLASSIFY THIS. AND IF YOU THINK IT WAS RAPE IS THERE MUCH YOU CAN DO AFTER 7 YEARS OF NOT SAYING ANYTHING?
2007-10-19 11:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by blahblah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you saying that your husband raped you? There ARE laws against that, just in case you didn't know that.
You really didn't give enough information about what happened, for us to know if he actually raped you though, or exactly what happened.
Sometimes men with no experience sexually do things like that too, they just don't know any better. So without knowing exactly what happened, it's really difficult to even give an opinion on your question, sorry.
2007-10-19 10:39:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I would say you are rehashing an old event because your husband has now fallen out of favor with you, and you now want some kind of ammunition to use against him.
That's very immature. If it bothered you back then, you should have brought it up back then.
At this point, reliving a past wrong isn't going to help anyone.
It is very destructive; and will only serve to further the distance you have with your husband.
If you really can't stand the guy, divorce him.
2007-10-19 10:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by LuckyLavs 4 · 4⤊ 4⤋
More than likely I would have slapped my husband silly. No way I would let him do that to me, and if he did, that would be the last thing he would have done for quite some time.
2007-10-19 13:16:30 · answer #10 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You had to be nude at least from the waist down...how would you not know?
If you had clothes on...once they started coming down and he was 'ready'...wouldn't that be a clue?
Seven years ago...get over it (I don't mean dismiss what he did...but for your piece of mind) or get away from it (still having to deal w/ your emotions of resentment).
I think you will harbor feelings of resentment all your life...if it bugs you this much leave. If you don't/can't leave you are going to have to deal w/ your feelings one way or another because this will eat away at you.
2007-10-19 10:42:39 · answer #11 · answered by PeachJello 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋