Do you ever get over death ?

Question

My father has been gone now for 10 years.. I just want to know if the pain will ever go away or at least subside....

Answer 1

You don't get over your father's death, you learn to live with it. My father died 31 years ago and I think of him every day and often talk to him.

Answer 2

The pain will subside, but never go away. I lost my dad in 1995 and just the other day I had an "emotional recall" episode that reminded me of him and I started to cry.

Our love for dad never dies, so our hearts still hurt no matter how much time goes by. There are so many things I would love to share with him today, but I can't, because he is gone. It hurts every single day.

My heart goes out to you and I hope you understand that you are not alone. I understand how you feel and feel just the same. It will get easier, but like I said, it will NEVER go away.~

Answer 3

If you are still in pain over your loss then you may need to resolve some issues. You never get over it but by this time your mind should have scarred over allowing you to move on. Take a look at these sites on the stages of healing and see if maybe you skipped some.

I have not lost my father or mother yet so I cannot give you experience on it. However, I know that it will make my life lonelier and less supported and really dread that day.

Answer 4

There is much literature written on the stages of loss and grieving. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross was one of the leading "experts" on death and dying; her "Five Stages of Grief" is widely taught today.

1. Denial. "He can't be sick. The doctors are wrong."
2. Anger. "Why him? It isn't fair!"
3. Bargaining. "Just let him live another month."
4. Depression. "Nothing matters."
5. Acceptance. "I miss him, but I'm going to be okay."

You don't go through the stages as they're listed; you may skip a stage, or go back and forth between stages. Grieving is actually a process with a finite end. That end may not necessarily be the absence of pain; some pain isn't supposed to go away. The end is realizing that although your father is gone, he still lives on in your memories and that you're going to be okay.

As it's been ten years, if you feel you are still "wandering" the stages above, I encourage you to talk to someone about your loss. If you don't want professional help, such as a counselor, pick a friend you can trust and "unload" on him/her.

My father died in October 1991. He lives on in my memories and in the presence of his granddaughter (my daughter), who is now 16.

Answer 5

I would like to say it does but you will always miss him. My dad passed away 11 years ago and i never got to say good bye to him and I still have a problem with it. I just recently found a way to have a little bit of a closure but it will never be the same. You'll always love and miss him. I wish I could be more of help, but I completely feel your pain. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

Answer 6

I don't think we ever get over the death of a parent. My mother died over 15 years ago, and I miss her and wish she were alive to this day. The pain fades, but not the missing. It's a part of our lives.

Answer 7

It will subside, but the loss will be felt forever. This is not a bad thing. It reminds you who you are and that he is still somewhere watching you. In my opinion.

Answer 8

the pain will release away slowly but the memories will never go away just keep that in mind and get stressed out.

Answer 9

No not completly.. My mom and dad both have gone and holidays, birthdays and the day they died are real bad on me... I do a lot of praying and it surely helps... Good luck Grant M inh Pennsylvania

Answer 10

The pain will never go away completely but in time, it'll be easier to bare. Embrace your wonderful memories of him & they will comfort you all the days of your life. :)