i'm dating with my bf for a month now. we argued 2 days ago, and i wanted to break up. the reason is really stupid but now I don't like him anymore. I can't simply say to him that I'm bored. today he sent me tons of messages, and tried to talk to me. so i said ok but i don't want him :( all in all he is a nice guy and hasn't done anything bad to me. the problem is that he is my classmate and we will be in the same class for 2 years more. What should i do now? How can i reject him politely, i don't want to break his heart :(((
2007-10-19 09:52:01 · 7 answers · asked by єуℓüℓ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Rejection, either polite or rude, is the best method to keep people stuck to you and go on trying to get your attention and approval. You already see that with the "tons of messages", and he is only suspecting that something is going wrong. When he feels rejected you'll have tons of his presence everywhere and in every possible way.
I would suggest you become boring to him too. Not indifferent. Just boring. Exhaust him with topics he is not familiar with, press him to partecipate in what he does not like, talk about things you know that make him feel bored.
And never let him suspect you're interested in someone else: you're going to excite his feeling for competition.
Being boring is one of the few ways to eniminate sentimental "chemistry".
2007-10-19 20:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Like most young people, I think that you are trying to " grow up " too quickly. Whilst still at school or college it is not appropriate to enter into serious or exclusive " relationships " , and any attempts to do so almost invariably fall apart within a short time.
You should concentrate on your studies whilst still in education, have a wide circle of friends, and learn as much as you can about someone before you consider giving them the status of a serious boyfriend.
This does not mean that you should not date someone who you find interesting, but do not be in a hurry to make them "the boyfriend" to the exclusion of others. You should make it clear that you wish to see and be friends with others, and if there is something " special " about any one of them then it will develop into something deeper and more lasting - you have plenty of time, so what is the hurry ?
First impressions are not the best basis for forming a deep relationship ; most people have some less attractive characteristics: you need to know someone for a long time to get to know their true personality, and the true test of a lasting relationship is can you tolerate each others' less attractive sides ?
Take your time, just be friends until you really know someone well, and you will avoid such predicaments as your current one.
2007-10-22 06:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been in this situation before. You never have the "best" way to break up with a person and especially when they are going to be next to you for a long period of time. I would suggest that you tell him that you are just not ready for a relationship adn That you need to focus on your schooling. After all, you need to do what is best for you and not other people. If he is not the one than he is not the one. There si nothing wrong with yuo wanting something different. and he will probably find someoen else just as quick. Tell him you still want to be friends but this just is not the right time. You thought it might be, but its not.
Good luck girly!
2007-10-19 17:01:01 · answer #3 · answered by nikki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are not interested in him instead of getting into childish games like 'soÄutmaya çalıÅma' etc. just tell him that 'you dont like him in that way anymore and would like to be ONLY friends', that will upset him for a few days yes, but by getting into sort of being boring to him etc. believe me he will hurt more, cos noones stupid enough to think people become boring over night and that will break his heart, best policy is honesty so just be honest with him...I am vitnessing a situation like that and I can see the pain (this time the girl) going tru just because the guy is not honest and playing mind games, perhaps he is doing it in order to not to hurt her but its makig it 50 times worst...be brave and tell him once and it will be over, he will respect you more and will be a good class mate to you...
good luck and dont feel bad...
2007-10-20 05:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by DejaVu 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
just tell him that you are not interested, that he didn't do anything wrong and that there's nothing he can do to get you back. that you are permanently breaking up with him. you have no choice but to hurt him. do it plainly and now. don't tell him any silly lies like "i want a break" or "i need some time"
be honest.
2007-10-19 16:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol, u got bored for only a stupid arguement?
Relationship isn't a game.
Be honest and clear.Tell him 'I don't feel the same about you anymore.' But u need patience and tolarence.
2007-10-20 06:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by Irmak 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you think yoiu two need to see other people.
2007-10-19 16:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋