we dated for 2 yrs and i ended it coz he gave the lame excuse of not being able to marry coz of family (quite a bullshit). he tred to contact a few times after the break-up and sounded desperate and heartbroken, urging me to be in touch - which i always declined.
as a person, he's reserved, laid back, innocent and quite square and simple. A very good looker and sought after by girls. his past ex girlfriends too are in touch with him and he obviosuly hasn't told anything to his wife....so why do you think is he doing this?
2007-10-19 09:17:14 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is bored, likes to see what other people are doing. Don't put too much into this, remember he did not marry you, your husband did.
2007-10-19 09:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT a booty call when you stay so far apart...he hasobviously been thinking about you, maybe something reminded him of you or you have been in is head since it ended, and its took him this long to pluck up the courage to contact you..... I am going through the same thing with a guy i was seeing.....and although we are in contact again nothing has been said..... its like we are making chit chat...although there is nothing to make chit chat about if you know what i mean.
I stll have feelings for my ex and if you do too this will only make them worse...if he continues to contact you, you will find yourself in a horrible situation, trying to decide what to do.....some might say he isnt being fair by contacting you but what about how he feels...he may be madly in love with you still and is just holding out a bit of hope that you still feel the same...thats what i think anyway!!
either way he isnt happy at home and has started contacting you....ask him outright what he wants....
btw how do you know his ex girlfriends are in contact with him too??
2007-10-19 09:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what he calls to talk to you about. If he talks about his wife and kids and just general stuff, it could be that he just wants to keep in contact with a friend. As a shy person, he probably has few friends and might be reaching out for personal contact with somone he feels safe with. I would not read much into it, unless he talks about things that make you uncomfortable. I would tell him that he needs to be upfront with his family about contacting an old friend and you have to do the same. I hope everyone's relationship is secure enough to handle it. If not, cut it off.
2007-10-19 09:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but I've had an ex bf make attempts to contact me in the years since we broke up (with lots of drama) as well, usually through e-mail and I don't respond. He's still thinking about you, maybe he regrets things not working out, at least that's what I think about mine. Mine also puts these cryptic hints in his messages that he's ill and I think it's b.s. and he's trying to manipulate my feelings to feel sorry for him and respond. My advice, especially since you are married and have moved on is ignore him (so what if he's still pining away for you).
2007-10-19 10:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is : why do you care? It's not him getting and contact or why, it's what you do with it. Does his reason for getting in contact with you make a difference on if you'd want to see him again as a married woman? I say give him the brush or flat out tell him to go away. Unless that is.....if maybe.....could you be tempted? Good Luck
2007-10-19 09:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
needs different "extracurricular" activity, and wanting to plant the seed, in case you guys could meet somewhere. If you were the only one he was contacting, i'd say maybe he was having some good memories, and thoughts and wanted to touch base. But, since many keep up with him... that tells it all. The stuff at home is getting old.
2007-10-19 09:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that you have a good feel for people and you've done the smart thing so far. Keep going and ignore him.
Don't go mess your life because of him or his problems.
The past is better kept in the past.
You've moved on and have to keep going.
Good luck.xxx
2007-10-19 09:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you said it, " his past girlfriends are too in touch with him and he obviously hasn't told antything to his wife"...... I don't think he's laid back, reserved or INNOCENT.
You can come straight out and ask him why he's calling you, but you know that this isn't anything that needs to be pursued. He may be wondering "what if", but that ship has sailed.
2007-10-19 10:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it matters why he is doing it. All that matters is that you are true toyour husband and family. He sounds like he has some demons he is struggling with. Reach out to him one more time and let him know his calls are unwanted. After that ignore them and be upfront with your husband every time you receive a call or message from him. Your responsibility is to your present and future. Not to your past!!!
2007-10-19 09:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasons. He misses you. He is bored. He is insecure in his past decisions and current marriage. He just wants to be friends. I think it's best to let this one go. Don't encourage contact with him, and eventually it'll stop for good. If it doesn't, on its own, you have to be blunt. No good can come of this.
2007-10-19 09:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋