Whose job do you think is it to propose, man or woman(read)?

Question

Well, maybe not even just asking for their hand in marriage, but maybe asking another person to go out with them, "go steady" (be boyfriend and girlfriend), go to prom, etc.

But people always tell me I'm too old school because I don't think it's a woman's job to ask a man to marry them, and i don't mean "suggesting" marriage, i mean, get down on knee (maybe not in this manner) and ask "will you marry me?"

It just seems a little weird to me, and i also don't ask men if we can go out or be boyfriend and girlfriend, I also don't find this is a woman's "job", although this is changing in today's society, and sometimes I wanna change but it still feels weird, what do you think?

ok, maybe i shouldnt say "job", so when i say "job" i really mean "position", because it isnt a obligation like a job, so pardon my "misuse" of the word

Answer 1

Personally, for me, it's the man. We live in the 21st century though and I think it is appropriate now for either to openly ask for a date, to go steady and yes, I suppose, even propose. I guess you and I attended the same school though because like I'm still old fashioned, like being treated like a lady and I refuse to chase after a boy/man. I prefer to be the suit-ee and not the suit-or. ;-)

Answer 2

Although I think it's cute and romantic for a woman to propose, I couldn't imagine myself doing it. Traditionally, it's been a man's "job", maybe because woman are often ready for commitment before men are, and if a woman proposes, a man may either feel obligated to accept even if he only likes (not loves) her, he may feel pressured and stressed if he is not sure whether to accept or not, because a denied proposal can ruin a relationship. These problems can also occur with women who are proposed to, but like I said, it seems most women are ready to settle down before men are.

As for dating, I think it's become a lot more common for girls to flirt and ask men out; it's not uncommon at all.

Answer 3

The person that should propose is the one that is the most invested into the relationship. That can be either the man or the woman. I don't think that your gender is relevant to your ability to take interest and control of your relationship. If you really like a person who cares if your a girl, ask them out. Or lets say you've been dating them for 3 years and he doesn't have the nerve to pop the question, you do it. You shouldn't waste your time waiting for the men in your life to make your decisions, especially when it comes to relationships.

Answer 4

I think whatever soceity we are in a woman should not approach a guy by offering marriage or even to be her boy friend. They can show a little emotions, so they can get the idea that she like him but not approach him whatsoever. It is a man's job and should continue that way.

Answer 5

As we have ascended into the 21st century, women have fought for equality. If women so desire equality, they must prove it on multiple levels, such as joining the selective service and being providers for their families, as well as being capable of starting and continuing the trends within a relationship. But that's just a perspective.

In reality, I don't think of it as a duty. It should be a desire or it should not be done. If you cannot act in accordance to your desires, you have no purpose.

Answer 6

i'm old fashioned and i'm only 22! haha! i would never propose although i may propose the idea to propose but if a guy can not be a guy and do the proposing on one knee then we've got issues!

Answer 7

well its the preception that you dont like, being the dominate one in the relationship. being a man or women asking someone out is just fine, however i do leave it up to the man to ask for your hand in marriage, however it is also your job to be open with him and talk to him about marriage and such things. we no longer live in a world where women stay home raise kids and arent in the job place, they now have very large rolls in the work place therefore women are no longer just seen as the submissive roll.

Answer 8

Definitely it is not women's job to propose man but in this condition man should not be shay women should be shay & vise a versa.

Answer 9

i am old fashioned so i think the man...it is a reflection as his futur role in being a husband and father and being the leader of his family... this is not old fashioned but vitally important, yes society is changing, but does it really look like the results of that are good? role reversal is a cancer to a healthy functional relationship, so why start it off wrong?

Answer 10

man's job, all the way.

Men are natural hunters and the love the chase!... so, why make their job easier? lol...
let the man do the chasing, and give him enough feedback to keep him coming back (real men love a challenge)