My significant other moved out to his own place. Mostly due to stress from our home situation and my daughter. Out of frustration he yelled at my children (17 and12) and upset them.
Now my daughter, who used him as an excuse as to why she wasn't coming home on weekends, is still not wanting to abide by the rules and is gone most of the time.
She's out and not going to come home on weekends anyways. She's 18 in a few months.
She's out doing what she's always done and has told me she doesn't care at all that I'm now alone. She doesn't even want him over to watch tv with me or spend an evening. She says I have to choose between her or him.
When do children dictate too much regarding their parents new relationships?
Do you allow your children to say who they want you to see, and when....if it's not him, wouldn't the issues be the same with another man? ??
How do you find a balance between kids and the new person in your life?
2007-10-19 08:44:51 · 3 answers · asked by xxxxi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
And she said if he comes back then she's gone.
She has good marks, comes home on weeknights by 11 pm, has a job after school.
But she wants him gone. So he moved out but she doesn't even want him to come over, have dinner, and if she's not home, she is upset if he sleeps over.
I'm tired of the teenage drama but I also love her and don't want her to make me choose.
This is soo hard.
2007-10-19 08:59:55 · update #1
sounds like she's just using him to not go by your rules. She has no right to dictate that type of choice unless she's being abused by him. Sounds like you're letting your daughter run your life. And it seems like she's doing it well. You're wrapped around her finger, just don't support her and you'll see a difference.
I know it's hard, but i'm sure if it were your parents trying to controll you like this you ouldn't allow it. It's rediculous! Tell her where her place is, just because she's making money doesn't mean she's paying the electrical bills.
2007-10-19 08:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by justkiddingu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can only try but if the child wants to be a whinger like yours then she has to live with it,you can only do so much for them and as shes not a small child she knows what shes doing is wrong.do not let this little brat dictate your life as you can see shes spoilt and does whatever she wants so its too late to complain now you should have stopped her along time ago.tell your boyfriend to come over anddo things with him and when she complains tell hershes a sook and noone cares what she thinks ,its obvious she gother own way at his expense so if i was him i would start looking for another women with no brats .and if he does thank her for it.
2007-10-19 16:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by me m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay who is the parent here ? I think you need to set your foot down and tell her that you will have over who you like ,when you like and how you like . she does not set the rules in your home . and that is just it ,it is your home I think she needs to be reminded of that . In the first place I set the rules in my home and no one else including my kids . You need to put your foot down !!!
2007-10-19 15:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋