Also, we have a 2 year old daughter...
2007-10-19 08:03:48 · 9 answers · asked by smlindse 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You aren't likely to win her back by one day's pampering. You should try to fix whatever the problem was that separated you in the first place, and then perhaps THAT will win her back.
In the meantime, do something nice for her for her birthday such as arranging a babysitter and taking her out for a nice dinner at her favorite restaurant. No need to go overboard, sometimes the simplest romantic evenings can be the nicest.
2007-10-19 08:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by elsie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, 2 year old daughter, married 1 year and already separated?? You need to take a really good look at why you are separated so soon, other than the obvious fact that you got her pregnant and waited a year to marry her. Or did you just get married because of the baby? Really poor idea for marriage. Sounds like you can forget "winning her back", especially with some goofy "romantic" gesture. Figure out the problem, fix the problem, then talk to her about it. And for sure, 18 years of child support will keep you busy.
2007-10-19 08:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't listen to the people that answered your question by telling you to forget saving your marriage. Too many people give up on marriages so easily now a days. And to have marital conflict after just 1 year is more common than people think, they call it the "adjustment period". You might want to keep the gift simple, like send her some lovely roses with a card that tells her you love her and wish things could be better between the both of you. Inviting her out might be something she is not ready to do yet. I guess it all depends on the circumstances of why you both have separated. Either way I do hope it all works out for the both of you!
2007-10-19 08:41:32 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I thought you said you were separated for a year. How long have you been separated?
I someone else here suggested you forget the romantic scheme and instead identify the root of the problem and work on that. I'm in complete agreement with that approach!
2007-10-19 08:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by turnabout 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you need to get a baby sitter and then you need to call her and ask her to get ready that you are going to pick her up no question before go to the most expensive hotel that is going to bend your wallet rent a room for the night get shampane strawberries covered in choclate put red roses all over the floor and the bed get hot water in the tub and put bubbles and roses in there. Pick her up take her to the nicest resturant with her favorite food tell her you love her and you miss her company and that you want to be with her. Then take her to the hotel blind fold her take her to the room and let your immagination run wild.
2007-10-19 08:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lost 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-10-19 08:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by Ebony da *Dimepiece* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 05:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deal with your problems first and see if there still a chance for you two to get back together. as for her birthday doing something special will not make you win her back but it'll probably make her feel softy. it's cliche but flowers still works!
2007-10-19 09:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by isla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One year and seperated already huh? Forget it pal......you're wasting your time. Save your money for the legal fees and child support payments that are coming down the pike.
2007-10-19 08:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋