Appreciation of what we have. What are your thoughts?
Link to a good read if you are interested:
Still in Love After the Tough Times
http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/what-does-for-worse-look-like?ecd=wnl_day_101907
2007-10-19 08:01:52 · 20 answers · asked by kayboff 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I've learned to appreciate every moment of life since so many of my last 10 yrs have been difficult with a husband who is so ill with cardiac problems that he has all he can do to breathe and walk to the bathrm. I am his nurse,mother, friend and companion, I stay up all nite with him when he can't catch his breath,and when he is nauseous and can't sleep, I read to him,talk to him about the past and our kids and constantly touch his arms. I give him all his meds,I do all the talking to the doctors,and they trust me to care for my hubby of almost 50 yrs. The rough times are not going away,and I know rougher times are coming, so I live everyday as if it were the last day.
2007-10-19 08:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by lonepinesusan 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I didn't realize this was a marriage question! After reading the articles on your link, I had some thoughts on the subject.
Couples who stay married somehow get beyond the miserable, blaming stage of the rough times without destroying their love for each other. The "somehow" is hard to define. For me it was realizing that life does indeed go on. The world keeps right on turning no matter what personal tragedies we suffer. I might as well accept that fact and enjoy each and every day with the husband I love.
2007-10-19 15:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by Miz D 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think you really learn about the other person in a relationship during the tough times. For some people it brings them closer together and for others it tears them apart. It's easy to stay close when things are good, but it takes a lot more work when hard times get in the way.
2007-10-19 15:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My life has been pretty easy and happy so the rough times are really rough. I don't know what I have learned but I found God during a bad time. I guess I learned something good can come from the bad times.
(Sorry I did not realize we were talking about marriage)
2007-10-19 18:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by Ruth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rough times are cement that bonds a great relationship and holds back the ocean-like Sea Walls.
2007-10-19 20:23:29 · answer #5 · answered by kriend 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kay, I think it is when my strength is gained. "Rough times," have presented much for my gain! My relationships are strengthened and especially, with God!
These times have taught me how to be empathetic with others, who are walking roads I have already traveled. They provided wisdom for those who are seeking. They allow me to see God work, in my life, through, my faith, prayers and submission to His will!
Yes, these times have made me grateful for what I have been blessed with; however, they allow me to reflect on where I have been and where I want to go, in my life. The fact, that as a Christian, I do want to submit these times over to Him and grow in wisdom, not bitterness, grow in truth, not allow my "rough time" to overshadow the good which comes from this. Above all, to be able to hold my head up, no matter my situation as I know that God is with me.
2007-10-19 18:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what you are referring to. I'm a survivor. Bad times you pay the rent first, then utility bills. You DON'T have cable TV or eat at restaurants.
If it's relationships, she wanted a divorce, I said OK. What else can you do? I moved on.
2007-10-19 17:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by WooleyBooley again 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Their is everything to be learned from the rough times. The good times teach us nothing. They are just to practice what was learned during the rough times.
2007-10-19 15:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by oldman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Soldier on. Or don't. Strive to turn your own grief into compassion for others. Learn to deal with loss as best you can, and remember that none of us will exit this world alive. That's all the word from me right now. My best to everyone!
2007-10-19 22:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the going gets tough the tough get going. Tough times make you stronger.
2007-10-19 18:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by Donna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋