Men – how do you think most women feel about sex?

Question

A poster just asked if women understood how men feel about sex.

So do you know how women feel about sex? Some men on this forum suggest, in part, that women consider sex as a bargaining tool to get what they want out of the man, or that some women don’t enjoy sex and are mostly just consenting to having sex with you, while others suggest that feminists are all man-haters.

Guys, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Women dig it just as much, if not more, as the man does.

Please give us your opinions. I’d like to know how YOU think we feel about sex.


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EDIT to cltchperf: To answer your question:

I love every inch of a man, some inches more than others.

Answer 1

I believe that women ask themselves a lot more questions than do men, before they decide to sleep with someone.

Perhaps that's as it should be, perhaps not.

Once "in the moment," however, I think women are even more susceptible to total abandon than men.

IOW, women take longer to get started, but go further down the road!

Answer 2

I think most women feel conflicted. They enjoy sex, but they feel at some level that they shouldn't enjoy it too much. They would like be as free about their sex lives as men are, but they worry that this will make them a s.lut. They want to be carefree about having sex, but they worry a lot about getting pregnant. They see sex as the end product of an intimate relationship, where men see it as the way to become intimate. They need to be relaxed to have sex, where men see sex as the way to relax. In a long-term relationship, most women lose interest in sex and think there's something wrong with men when they don't.

Answer 3

I believe most are very passive about it. They can simply redirect their energy somewhere else and allow it to be dormant. For women it is more like mind sex. As long as the guy plays to the mind in either looks or intellect the woman is responsive sexually. For a woman to be attracted to a man, she has to be stimulated by acts of consideration, thoughtfullness, emgage her mind, set the mood, then deliver the goods.

Answer 4

I think most women are just waiting for the right guy to give them the freedom to be a "bad girl". Break taboo's and SPANK THAT WENCH! Get some PASSION going. Talk about it beforehand and then let it rip! Have a good time! Just keep the dog outta the bedroom... they have the "look" when ya lock eyes with em that makes ya feel guilty... lol.

Answer 5

Women love sex, but they will allow day to day things to get in the way. With men it is just sex first, then worry about the other things later.

Answer 6

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A guy always cums fast when its their first time. and especially if he's been waiting for a long time. Guys are erect at least 5 times a day so what I would do is some foreplay until he ejaculates or the both of you for that matter its not fair that he has orgasms and you don't so get him to do you first and then once you finish he will be more than ready for his orgasm. then use a condom because that cuts down the sensations for him if he feels he is about to come prematurely then tell him to come out and do some more foreplay on you so he has time to calm down. the condom should work but if you want a baby tell him to take the condom of before ejaculation and then finish in you. the longer you wait to make him come with foreplay the quiker it will be because he has to get it out of him.

He also does need time because you are the only one he has been with so once he gets used to it, you can really enjoy it once he gets his techniques down pat. Tell him what you like. Get some books and videos also until you both are experienced. Or you could even have a quickie in the morning, when you get home and then at night. he will diffently last longer because his mind has been free twice already. You get on top of him and you control the situation. Also my boyfriend tells me that he thinks about none sexual things for a while to help control him, tell him to think about a sport or something that calms him. If that doesn't work then just do IT over until you are satisfied

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Okay, I have lived on both sides of the coin (loser/geek side and player/getting-laid-in-doves side) and these are my observations:

It's true. Women LOVE sex. They love sex more than men and can't get enough of it. However, women take sex for granted and are generally non-charlant about it. Few women have ever experienced sexual rejection (usually they FREAK OUT when this happens as if sex-on-demand is their birthright!) let alone sexual starvation, prolonged involuntary gut-wrenching "dry spells" lasting months or even years and have little sympathy or at least empathy towards men in this matter.

In addition, certain social conditions must be in place for sex to take place. In general, women never chase guys directly and NEVER want to be responsible for socially unacceptable sex, i.e. most one night-stands a guy has to play a long dumb game of pretending not to be interested until she is tearing his clothes and the official version of events is that "it just happened, an accident". I HATE playing this stupid game, but I have no choice, such is life.

Women compartmentalize sex and male roles much more readily than men. If you are a "player", i.e a one-night stand, a woman is very unlikely gonna consider a relationship with you, but will gladly cheat her bf without even thinking about it, without feeling even a tinge of remorse (very often she won't even tell you she HAS a bf! I had this happen to me once). In fact, how dare he try to take this away from her and make her feel guilty about it and after all it's not like it's HER fault, these "accidental discrete hook-ups with high status men" don't really count!

If you are a friend, you are usually regarded as an sexual eunuch who not only will not get laid but has no right to even be sexual or desire sex. You will be treated with utter contempt. In fact I have had many "jealous friends" try to trip me up when finally getting somewhere with another girl. For women it's ALL about social status and low status people simply are not allowed to get laid, they are only there for the validation of higher status people.

In fact, the dominant reason women go to clubs is to get their fix of validation from the lower-status guys that are fawning over them and buying them drinks. Once they get that fix from you, i.e. you unmistakably show signs of being attracted before they are to you, you are DONE, TOAST and promply and rudely ignored from that point.

If you are only moderately attractive there are all sorts of rules and hoops you have to jump through, like no sex till AT LEAST the third date. If you trigger the attraction circuits properly all of these are whisked away into the cupboard. I have reached the point where I cannot take a single rule a woman puts forth "seriously"; I KNOW that more likely than not that she had broken these rules in her life whenever it suited her. The compartmentalization is very easy to manipulate if you know how to behave and what to look for.

In general, I view women as ultimate sexual hypocrites. When it comes to sexual issues for women the word "integrity" might as well be from a foreign language.

"Integrity" is way too "logical", it hampers "feelings" an a woman is at her most feminine when she is free to feel and do what she has the urge to do all other considerations aside, which is generally what all those trashy romance novels are about!

Despite not starving anymore, I still haven't gotten around to getting used to these facts, let alone "liking" them.

Answer 9

Even women who dig it use it as a tool at least every now and then.

Answer 10

Most women think we're machines or something. Like we can do it numerous times every single day.

I also don't know why they say women aren't visual?