hunter husband?

Question

Okay women tell me this. I have a husband who is a hunter and has been on a hunting trip since 10-16. I call him this morning. Happy thinking he is coming home. Nope. He is staying another night. I just find it weird. Why stay when your not seeing any deer. What is so enticing? I just don't get it.
I'm ready to leave.

let me add. We have a child. He has no responsibility as a parent. I do not get equal time.. oh sure guys can be relaxed about it..they are the ones with no kids, no work no wife and an entire month of vacation !!

Answer 1

You're ready to leave--over this one incident? Did you two write your own vows or something and not promise to love each other for better or for worse, or 'til death do you part? You sound spoiled. If I was him, I wouldn't want to come home either.

Do you want him home because you miss him or just because your stuck at home and want him there to share your misery?

Sometimes guys need their time away, and if you allow them to have it, they're much more fun to have around. If, however, you are suspicious of his whereabouts, make sure you have good reason to be. Has he done anything in the past that would make you think he's not being faithful? If not, give your husband a break and quit being so clingy.

So whose fault is it that you don't get equal time? Assert yourself, schedule something with friends at a convenient time for both you and your husband and go have fun with the girls. It would be interesting to see if he ends up calling you--anxious for you to come home.

Answer 2

This is his guy time that he needs, and looks forward to it every year. It's like telling you that you can't go shopping. It's peaceful for him, time away, and he should then come home to you all refreshed, with lots of hunting stories. He enjoys it, let him do it. Trust him until given a reason not to, and everything will be fine. If there are other issues.... not tending to family problems, then that should be addressed separate. Sitting in the woods (deer or no deer) if very relaxing to a man. Enjoy the time to yourself. Then enjoy the time with each other when he gets home.

Answer 3

I am a hunter too, so is my wife.
For me at least, hunting is not about shooting a deer it is being out in the woods watching the wildlife, seeing things you don't get to see every day. Shooting a deer is only a bonus. If the weather is nice I will stay out all day and keep going out until the season is over. Don't make him choose between you and hunting. My first wife always put up a stink about me hunting, marriage didn't last long. My current wife hunts with me and we have been married 19 years now.

Answer 4

Hmmmm...hasn't seen any deer while out there huh? Its quite feasable madam. The wily and slippery deer of North America is well known for its ability to stay hidden and its talent for avoiding hunters. If you're husband gets into his truck at night though and drives down the road those SOB's come out of the woodwork then. Go figure.

So...me neither. My idea of a good time isn't sitting in a tree or traipsing through the woods in the cold, damp, heat, rain, snow, whatever looking for something that eats leaves, grass, acorns and is only a danger to an automobile at night.

If God wanted us to hunt deer he wouldn't have put neat little packages of plastic wrapped beef in your grocer's freezer.

Answer 5

I would feel like you do, and I think its more of the disappointment than anything, you'd built up in your head that he's headed back.. Hunters are addicted. I hear stories from guys in our community (I live out in the country)that they hunt all day, and every day that they possibly can. I think hunting ranks right up there with sex to a guy.... Don't leave on that account. If there are other issues, address them.... Good luck!

Answer 6

I was married to a guy who enjoyed hunting! I was told that it's the "two legged" kind to worry about, not the four! I would have to venture to guess that you maybe kind of the "nagging" type & insecure since you want him home with no real reason other than to "be there"... What's the rush? Who said you make the rules & he must abide by them? Honey if you think about it, he maybe the one who's ready to leave... Actually looks like he's already left seeings how he won't come back!!

Answer 7

I can assure you that you hubby is not a bigger hunter than mine.. I came home last week from a business trip, and he went hunting instead of coming straight home to give me a big kiss!!

He did make up for it w/ roses though...

the bottom line...while he is hunting do things for yourself, spend time with friends..enjoy the peace!! haha I know it's frustrating, but it just one of those things...

Answer 8

I have male relative who are the same way when hunting season is own you never see hide nor hair of them.. I personally love golf my husband is a golf widower, i love to play golf with the boys lol.

Answer 9

You are ready to leave cause he is staying a extra night? Do you think he is cheating and has he given you reason to think that he would cheat? Cause that's the only reason I can see why you would want to leave.

Answer 10

I didn't get it either. I then went along once and it pretty neat.

I understand your frustration though, if you have never been. It is quite hard to explain. I would start to worry if you said you wanted to go and he would come up with excuses.