are there still girls that say no?

Question

ive notice more nd more teens are pregnant then the generations before them . 10 ys ago in my school in the a major city there were a total of 4 girls that were pregnent before they graduated, but they were known to sleep around. and these were 17 18 yr olds. now it seems like more often then none its 13 14 15 yr olds that are getting pregnant what happened to saying no?

do you think it has to do with these certain parents that want to let their kids be there own person?

do you think parents should try to convience there kids to be kids as long as they can?

Answer 1

parents need to learn how to parent... thats the problem, they dont teach their kids morals... And of course the media makes casual sex out to be the greatest thing ever...

12 or 13 year olds do not know about protection, 15 year olds might not even know enough to stay safe... They need to be taught to practice safe sex... And more importantly the whole idea that being a virgin is something to be ashamed about needs to be stopped...

Teenagers aren't mature enough to be having sex because they aren't mature enough to handle the conciquences... I think at the very youngest some teenagers are mature enough to use precautions by the age of 16 and even then they should have some morals and be in a relationship...

And yes, there are girls that say no, I'm 17 and still a virgin and I have about 15 friends who are 16 or 17 and still virgins...

I also have 2 friends who are parents, one is 18 with a new born, she is in a steady relationship and capable of caring for her son and they are finacially stable... The other one is 17 with a two year old daughter, she was unable to care for her daughter because she is too immature so her mom told her she either gave her baby to her to raise or she would call social services, and now my friends mom is raising her...

They also need to learn about STDs... Two years ago there was a herpes outbreak at my school and about 200 students got infected mostly because they thought they were safe just because they used a condom...

Answer 2

I'm not a parent... My experience from what I know from others who have kids, what they say about the local high school, etc...

I don't think sex is more or less prevalent than a generation ago. In fact, I think the AIDS scare and other stuff has at least go kids thinking more about birth control and STD prevention, even if they are having sex just as often - they're more careful.

I remember there used to be a lot of teenage mothers. Now I think the thrill is gone. They can see friends and older srelatives who are struggling - mom and dad will do the babysitting and pay for diapers and formula only so long, then you're on your own. Fewer mothers, more abortions, less teenagers accidentally ending up pregnant because today they take precautions.

So, the education and openness is good. But, the real problem is - when you tell kids that sex is physically not harmful, and if you do this or that you can prevent diseases and babies, what do you think a bunch of bored teenagers will do?

The biggest problem with sex is that it messes with your mind. The songs and movies and soap operas aren't about the physical act (porn is). It's about the joy of love, or the pain of breaking up. That's the part I think kids can be too young to handle. A serious relationship needs maturity and the ability to give from both partners. Grown adults have problems keeping a relationship going, sometime have depression or anger issues when they break up a relationship; how would you expect a 13yo or 16yo to handle it even half as well?

Answer 3

I've said no plenty of times and I'm 14. Not all parents talk to their kids about this kind of thing or they know its going on and dont want to believe it, so they act like its not happening. Letting your kid be their own person and having sex so young are to different things. I think its sad to see 13/14/15 year olds who are pregnent, I cant even imagine how hard that would be, but they should have thought about it. Most schools dont offer a real sex ed. class, thats why so many kids believe that the "pull-out" method will actaully work. I plan on waiting until I'm married, I really dont want to end up pregnent when I'm not ready to support a baby.

I have a very open relationship with my parents and my older brother, I honestly think that my brother is the reason I'm not into drugs and sex. Most kids feel like they have no one to talk to so they go to these things. My parents taught my brother and I very strong morals and we both live by them.

Answer 4

I'm 17.
Now, if i had found someone right and special when i was younger, i would have said yes then.
But noone ever liked me. I had my first kiss when i was 16 and I'm still with the same person... in fact I intend to be with him forever. This was the one person that it was right to have sex with.
But some people my age are still ignorant or irresponsible. Most problems come with not explaining safe sex to kids. My mum has always been open and informative with me about sex and contraception, so a) i wasn't pressured and b) I knew how to keep safe.
We need to educate boys and girls in thier early teens about contraception and the value of relationships. This will be much more effective at preventing teen pregnancy (and not forgetting STIs) than trying to shut kids away from sex.

Answer 5

Its a lack of morals in society, a lack of purpose in children, poor parenting, no sense of self respect... Its all about how kids are raised.

I was raised to have a sense of self worth, and of higher standards and morals. I knew that there was more to life than sex, and that it did and should have the greatest value to me, not something to be thrown around. I also knew that although I had raging hormones I did NOT know as much as i thought I did. And I knew full well my parents were older and wiser.

I waited to have sex until I was married, I was 20 years old. My first time was on my wedding night.

I honestly do not know how women have any sense of value, or purpose or anything if they have sex with everyone they think they love. I still dont know what love is, not entirely, and to think I THOUGHT all those other boys loved me, I look back now and realize all those relationships were pointless and shallow. I cant imagine having had sex with those guys, let alone a child.

Its a shame, it honestly is. Its evidence of the poorest parenting there is.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

i say yes. i am a teenager yes i have sex, quite frequently with one man. but i think half of the blame goes tot he parents for not teaching their children right and just trying to be their friends.
my daddy was my friend and he said if i was gonna do it, then im gonna do it regardless of what he says, but i better do it safe
my mother didnt even come into the picture until less than a yesar ago, so she cant really say anything
im not saying my dad is not a good parent, but he knows that stuff happens and will continue to happen as long as people are on this earth

Answer 8

i'm 15. i've never let a guy so much as kiss me on the lips. a few have tried really hard to get in my pants and the all but got their balls cut of for trying. i say no. i ain't goin to for a long time. espically with the guys around here. ugh... ^_^ but yeah, i think in some cases it's cause of the parents, and the fact that the kid is an idiot....

Answer 9

i think parents should convince their kids to stay kids as long as they can im 13 and i want to have kids later in life when im 30 or something not 18 i think its distcusting that 13 year olds are getting preganat i told my mom abou a 13 year old that got pregant she was amazed she didnt really care about the fact that she was preganat it was the fact that a 13 year old was having sex So i agree with you!!!

Answer 10

I say no to my boyfriend, he may get intimate through words but I don't return it back because it may lead him to think I'd ready to go farther which I'm not.

My mom said I can go have sex and get pregnant if I want to but I will be dealing with my own baby. (as in she is telling me to keep skirts down and underwear up till I'm ready to spend my paychecks on diapers and milk, etc.)

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