She filed for a simple divorce and she did not want any money. She can get a half of matrimonial home but she didn’t want it for now (she can claim it up to 2 years after divorce) I had 30 days to disagree and file an answer with the court. On 29th days I went to the court and I checked the court copy and I was shocked:
On the court copy she mentioned the reason for filing the divorce: Abuse and control
On the copy she gave me she mentioned: irreconcilable differences
I could easily get a lawyer and accuse her to fraud but I did not, I am not a fighter. I called her and told her what I saw, she said: I made a mistake; I gave the wrong copy to the court. I asked her to show me the Original. She said: we will go to the court together tomorrow and fix it. Next morning I asked her what time we will meet in the court she became angry and screamed at me: I am not self employed like you! I have to go to work and then ask my manager and come, I will give you a call. After 2 hours, I called her at work and realized she never went to her office that morning! She went to the court from home and asked the court clerk to switch the papers!
I talked to the clerk in the court later and she said she made a mistake and she should have checked the documents more carefully…
It is about a month that she wants to find an apartment but she procrastinates. She has a good job (she has a master degree) and can afford moving to another place. She is a control freak, do not trust me and does not believe in family counseling! We went to a counselor and she calls her a shrink and after 2 sessions she refused to come. She told me she is making the situation worst. She has called her and threatened the doctor that leave 2 of us alone (controlling issues). For her it is my way or highway. Her 2 sisters are divorced too. We are married foe a year and a half; I can not enjoy my life when she is around. She is jealous and has a big ego.
What do you think my ex is doing? She served me with a different version of what she filed in the court! (In Toronto you should just give the photocopies to your ex and the original stays with my wife)
2007-10-19 06:28:41 · 15 answers · asked by mazyar m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get her out of your life. Hire an attorney.
2007-10-19 06:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it sounds as if she does not really want the divorce. I know to you she sounds jealous and controlling and she probably is, but sometimes people who are like this are really insecure and hurting deep down inside. They put up this big front of being strong when they are not. You sound to be insensitive and intolerable of her any longer, which in a way is understandable. She does not want to attend counselling because she felt her true feelings were being revealed and this scared her. She fears showing her true colors because most likely she has been hurt in the past. Too bad we people are not able to really look deep inside of what is really going on with each other then we would be more understanding. Since you are intent of ending the relationship with her then why don't you move? Or sell the home, it will have to be considered in 2 years anyway. Either way, best of luck!
2007-10-19 07:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really can easily get a lawyer, then get one. You don't have to accuse her of fraud, unless you want. Your lawyer will make sure she don't pull any monkey business. You get your divorce and move on.
I honestly don't think it is legal for a file clerk to switch the papers you filed for the ones she filed. Just get the lawyer and be done with it. Life's so short. Why waste a moment longer than you must on a woman like that?!
2007-10-19 07:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by peggy m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's trying to play you, don't sign the paper and have an attorney look it over. Why woudl she say one thing and another to you? She must of altered the paper given to you b/c why was it different then what she registered in the court....I would suspect her and be more careful that she isn't taking everything from you w/o you knowing. Even though you don't want to fight you may have to so you make sure she isn't taking anything you haven't agreed upon.
2007-10-19 06:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to tell her to leave the house or you will and find yourself a new home you do not need to be with someone like this she it a ***** she is controling something that is not fair the world reley on her and if I were you I would go to court and tell them how hard it is being with prove that she does not want to leave the house and how she is abiding you mentally and makin gyou feel down and questioning your self. Do it she wants to make you feel bad and you don;t deserve this find someone else go out have fun enjoy being single again.
2007-10-19 06:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer! But try not to make it so much of a war! Let her get something to stay calm and leave your life. U surely deserve someone better, that loves you and can appreciate you, not a mental case that does you nothing but harm.
Godd luck dooode!
2007-10-19 06:39:10 · answer #6 · answered by Chico Migraña 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't feel like reading all of this but I can tell you that usually they send you the version of what they really want hoping you'll be dumb enough to agree and sign off on it. Get a lawyer for sure !!
2007-10-19 06:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by Spirited Virgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares why she filed? It won't change the division of preperty. Just go to court and get the divorce!
2007-10-19 06:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by The Naughty Librarian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer, make sure to get half, and get the proceedings finished as quickly as possible. The sooner this person is out of your life, the better for you.
2007-10-19 06:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pat yourself on the back and thank your lucky stars she is divorcing you. She sounds like a nut case!
Consider yourself LUCKY!
2007-10-19 06:32:45 · answer #10 · answered by Uh-May-Zing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋