My four year old son's father and I have decided to break up after 11 years of being together. We are not married but we do live together and ever since my son was born he has known all three of us to be together. Now things are changing and I'm not sure exactly what to tell my son. Please help.
2007-10-19 06:25:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him the truth but from a level he can understand. Make sure he realizes that non of what is happening between you and his father is his fault. Kids tend to think that. But do not wait too long to tell him. He may be little but he know things are not right between mom and dad. Kids understand a lot more then we think they do.
2007-10-19 06:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by New Job Mayne! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth in four year old language. Keeping in mind he doesn't have to know all the details. Keep it to a minimum. Example: Mommy and Daddy aren't getting along anymore and we decided we shouldn't live together. We both still love you and then let him know what the arrangements are going to be. When he will be with you, when he will get to see his father. Kids all take things differently. He may be totally fine with it and then some children have a horrible time adjusting. I think it all depends on their personality.
2007-10-19 13:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both sit down to talk to him. You explain to him that both of you love him very very much. Explain that sometimes adults that love each other grow apart and don't feel the same about each other any more. You tell him that when that happens adults don't live together anymore but stay in separate houses.
Explain that he will still get to see his daddy but that he will see him in a different place now. Tell him that he will get to have his own new room in his daddys house as well as his mommys house.
Repeat that you both love him and nothing every changes the love a parent feels for a child, only between adults does love sometimes fade.
Good luck to you
2007-10-19 13:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents are seperating as well, just tell your son mom and dad are having some troubles right now, if he asks what kind of troubles just tell him we might not be talking as much as we used too, but you know that we both love u more than the world. Just try your best to put the news on easily.
2007-10-19 13:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kimbo slice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth--sometimes adults get to the point where they need to be apart from each other and that it isn't his fault. Also, make sure to tell him that it happens all the time and that yours isn't the only household where this has happened.
2007-10-19 13:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, mommy and daddy are not going to be living together any longer.
2007-10-19 17:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋