2007-10-19 06:17:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
How do you "force" a person to have a career? Handcuff them, drive them to an office, and dump them in front of a computer?
2007-10-19 06:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong to force her to have a career. If she can be happy as a housewife more power to her. It would drive me insane. That being said she should still keep up some marketable skills just in case she ever has to join the work force due to spousal illness, death, or divorce.
2007-10-19 15:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Laoshu Laoshi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the needs of the family; if a family cannot survive without a woman working that's one thing.
Ultimately is should be her choice. It's not wrong for her to have a career, so why force it?
Every one is different though. What is good for one isn't necessarily good for the other.
2007-10-19 14:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by Done 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a man wants to be a househusband, is it wrong to force him to have a career? I don't like the idea that only women "should" stay home with their kids, but I also don't like the idea that women get to "decide" if they stay home or work outside the home. Why doesn't the father get the same choices, to work at home, outside the home, or both? To me, that's what feminism is about, choices for men AND women.
I know some couples where they both work outside the home different shifts, so both can caretake their children.
You're also forgetting about the couples that can't afford to have one parent stay at home full-time. You're also assuming that all parents have a partner who can support them. Which isn't the case if you're widowed, separated, or divorced.
So to be fair, why do women who don't have husbands have to work, if they want to be a housewife? Who is going to support them? Why do men have to work outside the home if they don't have a wife to support them, so they can be a househusband? If you're poor, a blue collar worker, part-time worker, underemployed, or a single parent, you don't have the luxury of choices that other men and women have.
2007-10-19 17:16:20 · answer #4 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she isn't married, over 18, and her parents want her out and ready in the world then no it isn't wrong to get her to have a career.. You shouldn't be dependent on someone your entire life.
However if she's already married or with a boyfriend/fiance, then it's up to the people in the couple. If they decide one of them is going to stay home, then I'm perfectly fine with that.
2007-10-19 13:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
FORCE?
Who is forcing?
The fact is that if a person wants to eat, then they need money.
If you'd explained your question at all, we might be able to answer, but in the absense of ALL relevant details, it's impossible for me to know what you're talking about, and what's going on.
This isn't the Psychic Network, you know.
If you know of someone who's FORCING someone to do something against their will, alert the authorities.
Of course, there's that little matter of needing money to live. That's a bigger problem, isn't it?
2007-10-20 00:16:13 · answer #6 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think “force” is the wrong word; probably “compelled” is a better choice.
But I have known couples where the wife wanted to be a SAHM, but their finances weren’t solid enough to do so, or the husband didn’t want to be the only one working, or whatever, and she “had” to work. It caused a lot of dissention in the marriage.
As one man told me, he wanted to stay at home with his kids, too. He loved them as much as his wife did. And he thought of his wife as his equal, i.e., he thought they should share in doing everything, housework, yardwork, and 8 – 5 work.
So what do you propose is the answer?
2007-10-19 14:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by Rainbow 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems that being a "'housewife"" should be a joint decision. Most couples can't make it economically on one salary. The only one who could "force" it would be the husband.
I had hoped the term housewife had left our vocablary- houses don't have wives!!!
2007-10-19 13:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by professorc 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you don't need a second income, yes! As feminist this is why I hate that aspect 1970s women's movement; Oooh! I can have a career and then come home and do all the laundry, feed the family, give my kids a bath, etc. Can I please do more work??? It has given stay at home moms a bad name, and did nothing to help balance women's domestic lives with working lives.
2007-10-19 14:16:41 · answer #9 · answered by Maddy Jinx 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It would be wrong to force anyone to do anything agaisnt their will. I would not marry anyone who did not work because marriage is a partnership and one party should not have to carry the entire financial burden.
2007-10-19 14:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋