Honestly.. what do you truely believe goes on in a mans head when it comes to sex. In regard to.. the reasons we want it, who we want it from and why...
I'm curious to see how well women understand men and how intune they are with what men want. Either a lot of women don't know or don't care.
So lets have it ladies...
2007-10-19 05:59:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
A great question, btw. Men are human, which means they are different. Some are generous with themselves, some are self centered, some are unimaginative, some are creative etc. To men sex is a burning need. It is a physiological need, has absolutely nothing to do with their feelings. That is one thing that unites all male species. The difference is in how they handle it. Some simply spend it on everything on two legs ( they don't even look into their faces at times )... Others prefer monogamy ( long term relationships ) for its predictability and safety. To these guys emotional connection is part of the deal. Some have a hard time verbally connecting to their partner, and sex provides the way of showing it. Some have a hard time letting another human being close, so having sex inevitably solves that problem for a little while. Some get validation of their worth through their sexual partner's approval. Some enjoy variety of partners and techniques, others don't. Some need it all the time, and do not care where they get it. Others prefer quality over quantity. To some making sure his partner is well pleased is a first priority ( God bless those guys! ), others give no thought to anyone else but themselves. There are also some who enjoy using sex as a way of physically hurting their partners, but I do not think we need to talk about them.
I hope that was helpful in some way.
2007-10-19 08:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Uh, I find this question interesting.
How do most men feel about sex?
Most men I've known are all for it. They tend to really like sex.
They vary tremendously as to who they want to have sex with, and how often, and under what circumstances.
Some men are "romantic" and want sex, but in the context of meaningful relationships.
There are men who care about nothing else, and are willing to hump anything that moves (and some things that don't).
I don't think men are all identical to each other.
You don't ask, but most women like sex. They find it fun. Some like it only in the context of the meaningful relationship. Some will hump anything with the appropriate, uh, appendage.
What has long puzzled me is, for all the men who really want to have a lot of sex, why don't they try to suss out what women want?
If I were a guy who wanted lots of sex, I'd make a study of what turns women on. (A lot of men assume that what turns THEM on turns women on; which is very often NOT the case. So why not suss that out, and think how to turn on and please the woman?)
How can so many men who really want a lot of sex fail to give even a moment's thought to what would make women willing and keen to have sex with them?
On the whole, by and large (with a LOT of exceptions), men tend to be more visually turned on.
I've known women who are visually oriented, and I've known men who are completely turned off by, for instance, an annoying voice, and majorly turned on by an appealing voice.
But on the whole, more men than women are really turned on by the visual.
Some are more keyed in to scent.
Some by strong women.
Some by brains.
Men vary.
As do women.
Anyone who assume the other is automatically turned on by what they, themselves are turned on by has simply not been paying attention.
If it's a man who wants a lot of sex, why doesn't he figure that part out?
2007-10-19 17:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think most men think about it frequently and want it regularly and in a variety of ways. I firmly believe they secretly like a little bit of romance but sometimes the hard/fast rule blows off steam.
I also think that there are just as many men out there who want one partner as there are those that have many. Some of that depends on age and upbringing.
Men are fairly easy to read for the most part and it;s very easy for women if they just look for the signs.
2007-10-19 06:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by seafires1 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Sometimes men just want sex and don't care if you have just come back from run or haven't shaved in 4 days, or they smell your hair, see you bend over, etc., and just go wild. Other times I think men really want to just cuddle and feel loved like every human being does and make love.
2007-10-19 07:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by Maddy Jinx 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
All men are different. My boyfriend enjoys sex a lot, but I’m the aggressor. I could have it every day if possible.
But as a DJ today said on the radio, “Sex is kind of like pizza. It may be bad pizza, but it’s pizza!” So guys like to have sex without having to share a lot of complicated feelings to get to that point.
But Mike, don’t assume women don’t think about sex as much as you do...
2007-10-19 07:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Rainbow 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Based on my personal experience (which I will acknowledge may be different than other people's) men seem to want sex frequently with whoever appeals to them physically. Some want a relationship; many do not. Some are interested in their partner enjoying the experience as well, others really don't care as long as they get their needs met. Finally, I have never met a man who refused sex if I offered.
2007-10-19 06:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
They want it because it feels good and because they, like women, are human beings created with a sex drive necessary for the survival of the species.
As for who they want to have sex with, I believe the answer is different for every man.
2007-10-19 06:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is my opinion that men feel one way about sex...they like it. I don't think they need reasons or have to think about why they want it or from whom...
I'm not suggesting that "All men are pigs", or "All men think about is sex"...I just believe that it is far more simplistic for men...that they enjoy sex, they'd like it frequently. End of story. Nothing for a woman to concern herself with or even think about...
2007-10-19 07:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The guys like me,that have x-ray vision, from a front view,of a sweet smelling girl,don't need any other aids,since we love tuna;All we need, is a willing mermaid But most guys,have girls that prefer the power drill - and see oral sex on him,totally gross and out of the question.
2016-03-13 01:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's different for every guy. Some guys will have sex with whomever will do it with them, some won't. Some guys want it because they are horny, some guys want it because of the challenge, etc. I know guy who basically used sex and sexual pursuit to validate himself, because he had basically nothing else going for him - no hs diploma, a crappy job, really bad self-esteem, and not enough discipline to change it. He escaped from that and got his kicks from the chase and from sex. On the other hand, I've dated guys who I had a higher sex drive than. I've dated guys who WOULDN'T have sex with me after we broke up, and I said I wouldn't get back together.
Everyone is different. It bothers me when one man or one woman make the mistake of assuming that everyone else of their gender is like them. Don't make that mistake.
2007-10-19 06:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋