I checked his telephone bills without him knowing and found that he is constantly calling two numbers as in more than 7 times a day. he always professes his love to me and that he is always loyal. How should i confront him on this so that he will stop lying? this could be a make or break for us. Should i show him the tel bill as proof?
2007-10-19 05:19:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have asked someone to call the numbers and they are both women. He talks to both practically the whole day, one after the other and me just in between bec of the time difference. I tried leading him to this topic and he got mad and said if i checked on his personal stuff he will drop our relationship.
2007-10-19 05:37:35 · update #1
He had a major lie that he told me before we got married but i still accepted him, but now i feel he is really a genuine liar!
2007-10-19 05:39:56 · update #2
You know what you have to do you just are to afraid to do it. If he told you a major lie right before you got married chances are he will lie about talking to these women. You need to leave this unhealthy relationship before things really get worse and he ends up cheating IF he hasn't already. I'm sorry if this is to harsh but, sometimes the truth hurts. I hope this helped.
Stay Strong.
Stay Positive.
2007-10-19 06:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what the numbers are, there is obviously a trust issue here. You checked the phone bill because you didn't trust him, for whatever reason. Call the number. If it's not to your liking, confront him on it. But, if the number is legit, you should still consider seeing a counselor or something. Trust is essential in a marriage. Lack of it will kill the relationship.
2007-10-19 12:32:44 · answer #2 · answered by JsMFp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Call the numbers first and see who they are. They could be business contacts that he has to get ahold of several times a day. You never know. But sounds like you don't have any trust so find out if there actually IS something to mistrust, call the numbers hon.
2007-10-19 12:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to call the numbers and see who answers your call and then ask them who they are and how they know your husband. Of course you need to ask him about this for this will leave you wondering and confused. I am also in a long distant marriage and can understand how the distant can put a strain on the marriage, you do not need more stress from wondering if he is talking to any one else. I feel you are afraid to call for fear of what you might find out, can't say that I blame you, but if you do not call you and he is cheating you will sooner or later find out, but if he is not cheating then calling can at least ease your mind. I do hope all works out for the best for you. Good luck!
PS> I also had doubted my husband from time to time and had asked for copies of his phone bill, he willing gave it to me without so much as a fight. This is what long distant marriage does to us, makes us doubt and wonder.
2007-10-19 13:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband claims he is always loyal, and goes out of his way to do so, that is odd.
I'd confront the guy, if i were married to him. He will lie through his teeth, of course.
Why don't you call the phone numbers and pretend you are a telemarketer or something?
and by the way, if they are not cell phones, you can do a reverse phone number look up to see who the phone numbers are registered to.
2007-10-19 12:33:29 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you should call the numbers, see if it is a home phone or a business of some sort. Then you could confront him, but bear in mind, he might turn things on you and accuse you of not trusting him.
2007-10-19 12:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose you must first find out whose numbers are those. Maybe you or someone you trust should call them. Perhaps they are genuine contacts - business, etc.
However if you discover them to be some other woman, then its time to terminate this relationship as its not worth staying with a person who cheats
2007-10-19 12:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Amit P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. make sure the numbers are other females , don't confront any of them about it yet. sit back and study how he does different things that he hasn't done before. he could be doing other things that you had no idea about. if you let him know right now he will slow down but continue later after he feels your guard is down, but you have to make sure when all of this is done are able to let him go for good. good luck
2007-10-19 12:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by sheena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know for sure that those numbers are to women and not to someone he works with? Maybe you should just be honest and tell him that you are feeling like he may be doing something. Honesty usually works....good luck!!
2007-10-19 12:23:17 · answer #9 · answered by Sherie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you snooping I talk to my best friend like 8-9 times a day and he is married and his wife is not mad at all chill you could talk to him about it but if you go and put him on the defensive side then get what you dish out
2007-10-19 12:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋