When I think of my high school days, I do miss them, but there were times I would talk to my mother after school about the constant teasing. I am not afraid to admit it used to make me tear up then, and now I just get mad thinking about it.
I don't play the blame game, but now that I'm 27, I feel that high school shaped my personality to what it is today. I'm now an introverted p***k...Actually, thats a bit harsh. I am an introvert: my mind is constantly 'scanning' a situation or I listen to something, but I never say much, if anything.
That alone I feel has indirectly shaped my professional life (I always sold myself short, and never spoke up), and my personal / love life (my self worth, confidence, esteem is low. I've never looked at myself in high regard).
I rarely go out, and I am uncomfortable in social settings. I don't care for bullies that abuse physically or verbally. I see myself beating the sh*t out of them at this reunion in my mind. I'm still hurt. Should I go?
2007-10-19 05:09:17 · 7 answers · asked by jay s 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My good friend tells me I should reconsider. He says I should go to let them see I've done well. My answer is always the same "My demons are buried"... Which is said in jest, but I really do mean it. So, that alone says I'm getting over it, but still annoyed.
2007-10-19 05:16:16 · update #1
actually going might do you some good.
alot of times seeing people that hurt us in the past years later gives that person a chance to ask for forgiveness or to forgive people that did wrong. It might help you deal with some issues that you feel came out of this.
2007-10-19 05:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by Terrence W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I graduated from high school over 30 years ago and have never attended a reunion. I can't say I had a lot of problems when I was there but I just don't see the point in attending. There were almost 500 students in my graduating class and I don't believe I even knew 50 of them. If I attended, chances are I would be there with a bunch of strangers who probably don't recall ever having seen me at the school. I know I wouldn't recognize them. While I haven't attended a reunion, I know other people who have. One said that she went to one and saw that all the people who had kept in touch after high school hung around together and didn't really talk to anybody else. Another person who continued to live in the same area after graduation and occasionally sees classmates in his daily life said that there was no point in seeing the same people he has encountered over the years at this reunion. If I were you, I probably wouldn't go. Maybe in about another 10 or 20 years I might change my mind but I wouldn't make it a high priority in my life.
2007-10-19 05:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by RoVale 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do we always have to be bullied into situations that make us feel uncomfortable by our so called Friends. They always tell us it will do us the world of good and will lay the past to rest. I think if you don't want to go why should you? Why should you rake up the past and perhaps bring up memories that were best forgotten? If you're happy with your life now then don't go just to please everyone else. At 27 you are an adult and able to make up your own mind and not feel pressured into something you don't want to do. Good luck.
2007-10-19 05:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by happy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not care for those people then, what on earth makes you think they will be any better now, especially since they are likely to have been drinking? My advice is to stay away. You may want to talk with a counselor about your poor self concept though. Perhaps after some time with a counselor, you may be able to look back on high school and focus more on the good times.
2007-10-19 05:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by oldernwiser 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Up to u. I didn't go to mine, but have seen pics of people I knew in HS taken at it. Some of the girls still look good; some from both genders put on a LOT of weight. As for family and kids up to you .. I don't have a family of my own so would feel a bit left out if so-and-so were to say "Oh yeah, me and (spouse's name) are still in puppy love and have 2 kids .. I work at such-and-such-place and spouse works at
2016-05-23 17:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a 50/50 chance:
If you go, you can always just see your friends that you had in high school. And just ignore the bullies. Probably, though, the bullies have matured, so you never know.
The worst that can happen is if they say like, "Oh, him and i have had a funnny past, and you end up being embarressed.
So, if i were you, i'd go, and just stay with my friends.
-Good luck making your decision :)
2007-10-19 05:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away, you won't miss anything.
2007-10-19 05:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋