I'm 27, he's 26 but he act immature like he's 16. Married 3 years should I play the I don't role when he get in his negative attitudes?
2007-10-19 04:42:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't want to listen to it either.
If you weren't married, I'd suggest spending less time with him, and find positive people. But since you're married then I would try not to listen.
2007-10-19 04:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by LAL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion this may work at first but he will find away to top that and still annoy you. Thats is the nature of the beast...who can one up who...and the longer your married the better you become at it. The first thing I would do is try to find out what is really bothering him. I would articulate my feelings. I would say when you say these things to me it makes me feel like ___, I don't know if that is your intention but it does. If that is not your intention, how did you want me to feel, or whats was the purpose of what you said. Let him explain and try to understand him and then tell him how to get those results in the future. Now if he is just trying to be a butt and doesn 't want to do the work and articulate his feelings just ignore him. And when he says something negative act as though he is isn't even speaking. For example if your watching TV and soon as he starts just burst out laughing like the programming is so good.. then if he gets louder or continues..wait a few seconds and then give him a second dose of laughter while your staring directly at the TV (not him).. I know this is childish but sometimes when your partner is acting like a child you have to get on his level to relate.
2007-10-19 05:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs.G-unit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would simply tell him that you are real tired of his negative attitude and it is starting to bring you down. Let him know that everyone has negative in their life but if you look at the postitive it makes the negative go away. You need to be greatful for what you have and not miserable for what you dont have.
2007-10-19 04:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I've got one of these too and I get really annoyed with his attitude at times. Yes, I've used the 'don't give a **** what you think if your just going to be so negative' line, usually followed by my walking off. Eventually he comes round so it does work - but not all the time.
2007-10-19 04:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by alex s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be negative, it's his choice.
You could always let him know how you FEEL about his negativity -- i feel uncomfortable when you are negative, etc.
If he is negative now, perhaps he always was.
I hope you can ignore his negative attitudes and don't let them ruin your days. HE is the one with the negative mood, and emotional state of mind.... control YOUR OWN moods and emotions, hon.
take care
2007-10-19 04:50:55 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for how long will you be able to play the I don't care role?he an adult,he should act like one...often people treat us the way we allow them to...you should tell him to start acting like a husband not like a high school boyfriend who does't think before he acts...
we don't demand respect but we command respect...if you love and respect yourself u should't let anyone to disrespect u...
marriage is about respect,if you love a person you wouldn't hurt them intentionally....
it is up to you to make a right choice...either you command respect or turn a deaf ear and be disrespected
2007-10-19 08:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him if there is anything positive that he has to say. Tell him he is being so very negative and you are tired of hearing it. Tell him that you want him to come to you to vent but he also has to see what good life has to offer him. Tell him he is putting a damper on you and you are feeling overwelmed.
2007-10-19 04:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by Judi W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he has to be so negative. Tell him it's getting old. Tell him you want to live a positive life with him. Especially if he wants your marriage to work.
2007-10-19 04:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by spoc65 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur eventually going to get tired of having to hold ur anger in,,and acting like what he says doesn't bother u,,u should try talking to him about this,,like explaining to him how he brings u down and how his comments make u feel,,and let this annoying guy know ur not gonna take his crap,,and he's not gonna be acting like that with u,,ppl only treat u the way u let them treat u,,keep that in mind,,,
2007-10-19 04:54:45 · answer #9 · answered by lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I don't care" is generally a bad way to go.
How bad depends on whether his negative view is
realistic or just a personality trait.
If he's got a point, "I don't care" is a real bad attitude.
Even if he's just grousing, it's not helpful, and only
makes the his mood worse.
2007-10-19 05:23:46 · answer #10 · answered by Irv S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋