Okay, i have a little feet/tickle fetish. i know alot of people find it weird, but i do. A few of my friends tended to seme like they had one too awhile back, along with my best friend. now he wasnt at the time but weve been good friends since then. even if he doesnt, i just wanna know how and when i could tell him i have these both? how can i trust he wont tell anyone? would he let me fufil my fetish needs? i know this is weird for some, but please dont leave nast comments? im being serious and im so confused about whether i can trust him or not and if i do if things will be awkward and what not. Help!!
2007-10-19 04:22:56 · 3 answers · asked by x!*Youknow*!x 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Tickling doesn't do it for me, but feet can be sexy. (They can also be appalling) I don't think it's all that weird of a fetish - if it was, gay men wouldn't be so hellbent on wearing flip flops or sandals. But I wouldn't talk about it to just a friend. Save it for someone you date or want to date.
2007-10-19 04:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by Clint 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start with, there is no iron clad guaranty that your friend will keep the secret and there is no guaranty that your friend will not get scared if you bring it up to him. That said, there is also the possibility that he will enjoy it and participate with you.
The first thing that you need to do is determine how trustworthy he is in keeping a secret. You could test him by telling him something in private (for example, you could tell him that you have a gay cousin who might be coming to visit your family and you do not want any of your other friends to find out that he is gay. If he spreads that rumor, it is quite likely that he will tell others about your tickle fetish, too. If, on the other hand, he keeps your secret, he is probably trustworthy.)
Assuming that you come to the conclusion that he is trustworthy, have a private chat with him. Tell him that you want to talk to him about something very private to you and ask him to keep it in the strictest confidence. Once he agrees to it, tell him about your love of tickling (and/or being tickled) and feel him out to see if he enjoys tickling and/or being tickled provided the tickling is playful and the tickler respects the limits of the ticklee. If he is not interested, do not press it and let it go. Just remind him that you are counting on him to keep your conversation just between the two of you.
Feel free to contact me for more advice.
All the best to you!
PS. For anybody who may feel a bit offended by my suggestion to create a gay cousin, I have nothing against gay people and I support gay rights and gay marriage. I used this as an example because it would be somethin controversial enough to cause his friend to spill the beans if he is not able to keep a secret.
2007-10-19 18:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst feeling in the world is opening up to someone. I don't envy you. You have to be very careful when opening up to someone on a touchy subject like this one. The way I get to know if someone is trustworthy is to ask 'what if' questions. Feel him out with questions and then make your decision to trust him or not.
2007-10-19 04:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by gabriel l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋