Becoming a widow--have you any suggestions on how to cope when suddenly becoming a widow?

Question

Thanks for your compassion and advice.

Answer 1

Sorry for your loss....give yourself time to grieve. Take as long as you need to properly come to terms with the idea. Then the day will come when you are ready to get on with your life. Try to get some projects going. If you are still working age find a job. Or volunteer something to do. Think of the things you always wanted to do but never had time. Start putting yourself first for a change. Start walking and meeting other widowed persons. Go to curves. Get involved in your community, church. Or just enjoy having time for yourself. The main thing is not to let yourself get depressed...Accept the loss and move on for your health.

Answer 2

okay first off let me say I am sorry for your loss . I was a widow at 26 with 2 little boys and it is hard and you need grief counseling and you need to get out and join some groups that is what helped me . I had it hard though I had to get a job to support my boys because my husband died without life insurance so btwn the house payment (which i ended up losing anyway ) and taking care of the kids there was not alot of time for me . that is the best advice I can give you and I know it seems hard right now but it will get better .

Answer 3

I am sorry for yor loss, but the best way to cope is by gathering your family(children, grandchildren) and telling them, that Your father is no longer here, and the best way of dealing with it is by talking and sharing fun stuff that you used to do, and letting the grief have its way, but also tell them, that laughing about stuff that would have made their dad happy is fine and good to do.
Some people move on early, and some don't. If all of you have had a joy for life before, then you should embrace it again, because that is what your late husband would want.
A person may leave their earthly body, but their spirit and love live on in you, and as long as they are remembered, then
they are never truly dead. It is more than okay to laugh and be happy. In my faith(Judaism) you have 30 days of mourning intensely, after that you start learning to live all over again.
His personal items give to your children if they want it, or to a grandchild, his clothes and stuff give to a charitable organization in his memory, so that someone who needs them can use it. It may be hard to do at first, but as the days go on in everyday living, it will get easier some days, and then there are days when it won't. You and your children will never get over the loss, but you will learn to live with it and that is the best to hope for.

Answer 4

The only thing you can do is hold on to the wonderful memories that you shared with this person. You have to find the joy from the sorrow. Embrace the fact that you are lucky to have been touched by this person and in turn they were lucky to have had you in their life as well.

Take strength from your family and friends. The pain will never go away, but in time you will be able to push through it and move on with your life. Take your time.

Hang in there. I am very sorry for your loss.

Answer 5

surround your self with family and friends...don't be afraid to lean on others for help. I think that was my mother's biggest problem when she became a widow. she wasn't able to get over her pride and let others help her out when she needed it. Lucky for her she still had three children at home when it happened so she had no choice most of the time but she sparated herself from others when she was grieving. I think that made her rather bitter in her old age now. She still won't let others in to help. She still separates her self. I know you need time for yourself but don't forget about the others. try to stay as connected to your family and friends as you can. It will really help you out. Lean on each other and grieve together. i know this will help you. you need others around in the worst way. you don't have to go through this alone...there are other people out there to lean on for help. Sorry about your loss...May God Bless You and Keep You!

Answer 6

Sorry to hear that. Just try to make more friends online and offline. Wait some time till you will feel better, then you can think of finding a nice person on some dating sites such as richmingle.com. Hope you will be ok soon.

Answer 7

I find the promises of the bible a comfort. Revelation 21:3, 4, Mathew 5:5, Spalms 37:10-11. The bible speaks of a time when we will see our love ones also the same way Martha saw her brother Lazarus again when he was resurrected by Christ Jesus.

Answer 8

I'd be at a total loss, so I'm sorry, I have no solid advice.
My world would crash on my shoulders.
I can only suggest leaning on family and good friends, and knowing that with time, it'll get better. Time won't fill the hole in your heart, but it will make it easier to live with.

Answer 9

Sorry for your loss.
Losing a mate is never easy.
Please give yourself time to heal.
Find a support group that meets your needs.
Talk about your feelings.
Ask for help if needed.
Give yourself at least a year before making major changes.
I know it sounds contrite but time really does heal.

Answer 10

Death is a part of life don't die inside just becuase the person you love is going to die. Don't remember how he died remember how he lived and those special moments of treasure. Don't let him go for you will see him again. Live a happy life. And tell yourself everyday that he loved until the last breath and that you will be able to make it becuase where ever he is he is watching you.