Why a high percnetage of teen agers don't respect their parents?

Question

We often see them talking back at their parents and teachers. They disobey parents and even fight, they start sexual activities in high school years. Doesn't the education system of western countries need reforms. Today in USA most Asian, Indians, Pakistani and other immigrant students achieve higher grades and go to colleges but number of American students is lower percentage wise.

Answer 1

Because the parents can't discipline their children anymore without some bleeding heart saying that the child is abused and calling the cops. Kids know this and will threaten their parents.

I say let CPS take the little B*******s and let them try to make a living on their own without their ipods, PS3, and regular food and clothing.

I may discipline my child and be strict, but I'm pretty sure that he won't be selling crack on a street corner in a few years.

Answer 2

Oh please, don't act as if it doesn't happen anywhere else. It's all part of being a teenager.
The problem isn't the teens, it's the parents!

My son rarely acted out, almost never disobeyed me, but often talked back...but that was just him trying on his new found individuality. Being an involved parent makes all the difference. My son has always been a fairly good student, is well liked, has never done drugs, was a virgin until after he graduated high school even though he dated the same girl for several years, is a hard worker and helpful and commpassionate towards others.
He's now in college, having a great time, loving his classes, still works two jobs, still dating the same girl he has since high school, is in two bands and doing gigs all the time...he barely has time to THINK about doing something stupid, let alone carry it out.

Sure, he got in over his head sometimes, but my partner and I were always there to catch him. We would help him see things from a different perspective and realize where he was stretched too thinly.

Answer 3

Not sure why this is in this catagory. I think teenagers have always been--us included--a bit rebellious. I think it's gotten much worse for loads of complicated reason. The biggest being too many parents--in an attempt to keep a good relationship--tend to befriend their teens. I have a great 15 year old boy. And what works for him is balance and respect. I'll jerk a knot when he's headed in the wrong direction but I also let him know when he's doing well. Also, I NEVER try to be his friend. I also do not ever bring the hammer down when I clearly see he is struggling. The worst thing for him is for us to be dissapointed with him. And that takes a certain amount of EARNED respect.

Answer 4

It is not the education system at fault here, it is the parents. Most of whom have no business having children in the first place, because they have no clue how to raise them, and in fact depend on other people to do it for them, like daycare centers and the school system. I think people should have to qualify for a license to parent, like you do for driving a car. Complete training, take a test and pay the fee before you can have a child. All females should be placed on mandatory birthcontrol implants when they get thier first period, and not be able to concieve until they get a license to do so. At least with some rudimentary training and a bit more maturity than having a baby at 15, the parenting of our children would be vastly improved and you would see a great deal less of the problems you see now.

Answer 5

Sometimes I think television can effect this.
And American kids watch more TV than prolly most kids from other countries.
You see it all the time.
Kids on TV telling their parents to shut up or rolling their eyes at them.

Foreign childern see and apperciate education as well as freedom as a great opportunity.
Where as we were handed it on birth and can sometimes not appreciate its true value.

Its a shame really.
We can learn a lot from our parents.
Provided they're not on drugs or etc...

I have a lot of friends that actually are way better off than their own parents. As far as drugs & etc goes.

Which, maybe thats where they DID learn something from their parents.
They learned from their mistakes and made it a point to go the oppisite way in life.

Answer 6

Because the average American family has to have both parents working just to support the children. It is not that we don't care or don't take an interest in the lives of our children. As a single parent, I work a lot and spend as much time with my son as possible, but he is mouthy because I can't be with him every second and he is developing bad habits. I agree it is in the parenting, but don't go about criticizing the school system or other parents unless you have kids yourself. You are a spectator at this point...

Answer 7

There are many distributing factors to that.One is the lack of discipline and monitoring at home.Parents may be to busy with their work and don't have quality time with there children.the family values are quickly eroding.because parents and guardians fail to instill on their children the importance of human values such as respect,,humbleness,tolerance,modesty,love kindness,patience.The comparison on achievement level, other immigrants come to the us to seek better opportunities in life so they come with a goal and have to work harder to be able get the best of education in order to compete for jobs. American students on the other hand have parents who are well off and have an easy life because their parents can provide for them so they turn to take things easy. They are also given more freedom which they take advantage off.

Answer 8

may teens (like myself) talk back to their parent
because they just dont understand us, and we cant stand taking all the blame and being the "bad" one.
i personally talk back because i stand up for myself,
and i have gotten into trouble because of someone else
and i have to take the blame for it

teachers could be very unfair sometimes mostly because of personal reasons. i have seen teachers that got fired, because they was a racist and did not respect the students of colour or who are asians etc. i have also seen teachers that would care less if they miscalculate a students grade and the student confronts him/ her.

the sexual activities, i do not get also. i had a best friend that had to get an abortion, and now she works at a diner because her parents kicked her out. shes heavy on drugs, and i cant imagine that she was that sweet girl that i used to noe.

why asian, indians, and pakistani have higher grades and all are because of their dream to be the best, unlike us whites. some of them do that, because back in their country, if u do not do that you get abused by your teacher or parent. even though they come to america, that trauma still makes them do their best.

all adults think that teens are bad influences and are rude and all that crap, but we have feelings too and not all of are stupid, so please dont think that its al our fault, our parents and teachers dont respect us either.

Answer 9

1. Sadly, because today's parents want to be "friends" with their kids instead of "parents." It takes a lot of love, time, and sometimes guts to be a good parent. Saying "no" is not always easy, but has to be done. It takes love and courage to withstand the resultant pouting.

2. Too many teenage pregnancies, children being raised by grandparents instead of parents who married and maintain a stable home for their kids.

3. Too much garbage on TV. Programs like "Leave it to Beaver," and such are not "cool." Instead, we are bombarded with kids making jerks of their parents, mouthing off, etc. and this is apparently what today's audience wants.

4. In my opinon, Asian, etc. kids are taught more respect and the great importance of education.

Answer 10

Some parents don't deserve respect. And the whole "they gave you life...etc." argument is over. If you mistreat me, I mistreat you. It goes for everyone, including my parents. They're not special. And if I want to have sex and do drugs, it doesn't mean I don't respect my parents, or that the school system is effed up, it means I'm the one who's messed up (or drunk) and, duh, I'm a teenager. I respect adults who respect me, and I don't appreciate it when people make sweeping generalizations about my generation as if they've forgotten what it's like to be young. Things have changed. You weren't perfect, and neither are we. Shut up, and be a better parent, don't blame the school system.