Since I've started college, I've been hearing a lot about girls giving up everything to be a part of a sorority. My girlfriend wants to be in one next semester. I've heard horror stories of the types of things they make girls do during pledging and frankly, it scares and disgusts me that girls would put themselves through so many degrading things just to be a part of something. I don't really understand it and I don't think I know everything about sorority's but I'm fairly sure my girlfriend wouldn't do anything that would deem her as unfaithful during her pledging so I don't think I have to worry. Still it worries me that I know so little about it? Ladies, help me out here. Give me some insight.
2007-10-19 03:26:34 · 4 answers · asked by jonathanrose 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Greek life and being apart of a sorority is great! It allow for establishment of longertem friendships, access to mentors, networking, and getting help with getting through the college life. No, I will not deny that some of the rituals that have been publicy put out be extreme but your girlfriend must remember, never ever ever do anything that she feels is immoral or wrong. She does not have to and if a sorority does these types of things, she may want to reconsider which one she is joining. There is more than one, and I would suggest to her to become close with a current member and try to find out as much as possible. I know they won't tell everything but it would be a good effort. Also, after getting in the sorority, still never ever ever do anything that you feel is immoral or wrong. Its really not that serious. If the sorority is not there to enhance you as a person and allow you to contribute your gifts and personality to the organization, I'm not sure if its right. Just some things to think about.
2007-10-19 05:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Brainysmurf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not going to say they're all completely made up, but the horror stories get repeated because they catch people's interest in a car accident kind of way. Most pledging rituals are completely uninteresting to anyone outside the sorority.
As for why girls join them, they do have a lot of benefits: a core group of friends, lots of social activities, built-in mentors and job networking opportunities, a place to live if the sorority has a house. There are potential drawbacks, though, including getting sucked in to the point that you don't have an outside social life and feeling pressured to fit in with the group. If your girlfriend's sensible enough to avoid groups that will make her feel like that during the pledge period, then she's probably smart enough to find a sorority that will let her be her.
2007-10-19 03:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on the school where she is enrolled, but I wouldn't be too worried. My students get positively weepy talking about their close ties to their sorority sisters; it is a way of belonging to some kind of a close group while they are away from home. In theory, and in fact in practice, at some schools, it is a way for young women to be supportive of one another, which I think is very important training (certainly better than bitchy putting down of one another). Some of our sororities are very forceful in making students study. Yes, Greek life often involves drinking, but so does college life in general. I have not heard of sororities doing anything to force girls to be unfaithful to their boyfriends. I wouldn't worry.
2007-10-19 04:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by neniaf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually Frats are the worst. Sorority is about belonging. I wouldn't worry to much. If you're girl is a stong minded indipendent woman, she'll have no problem belonging without having to be pressured into doing stupid things later on. Now if she's week minded. A follower. Then good luck my friend.
2007-10-19 03:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by juniorsweapon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋