My friends and I were talking about marriage and having kids, we're all seniors and will be graduating soon from college. I honestly think that it depends for each person when the right time for marriage is, and for me its seriously going to be a long time before that happens. But my friend said he plans on getting married after 2 years, and it struck me weird that they were so serious about getting married so early. What do you guys think?
2007-10-19 02:24:59 · 17 answers · asked by Daphne 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Never put a time limit on marriage. It takes a long time to get to know someone and truly fall in love. People toss the phrase "in love" around like its a game. Its so serious because its a full time job. You must work at it everyday to make it work. It takes years alot of years of ups and downs happy times and sad times to make that love develop into true love. Its so ridiculous to hear someone say they are putting a limit on the amount of time before they marry. That is a very immature statement. Not ready for marriage thats for sure. And kids, well don't be one raising one. Be sure the marriage is stable before going to that level. And financially secure so you can give them a fabulous life. Divorce is not an option when you have kids cuz they will hurt forever over it. Marriage must be strictly secured before kids are even an issue.
2007-10-19 02:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by Maria 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is never a right age for marriage (accept of course being at an age where it's legal and the relationship is true). Now if you want to do it the right way then this is how it should be done.
You grow up and through your younger years you have crushes then little boyfriends or girlfriends( without the sex and very minimal kissing) a little peck on the cheek and some school yard flowers then as a teenager you date to get the feel what it's like with actually being able to hang with friends and just be a teenager. Once you Graduate from school now you go off to college and you party and have boyfriends and girlfriends and you practice safe sex or better yet don't have sex but save yourself for later. Then once you graduate college you start your job make tones of money and you find that someone to settle down with. By this time you have lived and had your cake and now you get to eat it because you got your education out of the way and you have dated enough to know what type of guy or girl you want to be with. Plain and Simple.
With everything said don't rush marriage unless you really understand what commitment, honesty, trust, true love and respect means. So peolpe take those things for granted and they end up doing something they didn't want to do.
2007-10-19 09:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by level_9yo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people get married before they are prepared, but it's an individual choice.
I think that a person is "ready" for marriage when they have the ability to take on responsibilities, have a good job and shared goals, are emotionally willing to give to another person, and do the work it takes to keep a marriage together.
Lots of people just rush into marriage without a thought to the future, and without getting to know the other person well at all.
That doesn't make it right or wrong, it's just they way people do things.
2007-10-19 09:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right age for marriage depends on the person I was married when I was 22. You have to be ready to do the work that it takes to keep your marriage going and be willing to put someone else first
2007-10-19 10:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by sarah W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years after college is a good time. You've got your education and a few years of work experience.
This only seems weird because we have this 'youth culture' obsession, that life is about having a PARTY instead of a FAMILY.
Truth is, as a college grad, your 'window' for starting marriage & kids is 25 to 35. (guys get a few more years)
So party another 5 years if you must, but I wouldn't wait 10.
2007-10-19 09:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no right age for marriage ; it depends on how comfortable the couple are together and how long they have spent together. If both parties are mature and responsible about this decision then it can be whenever they are ready.
2007-10-19 09:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a right age. It depends on the people, society, and various other factors. I don't think anyone should get married until they have lived together for at least a year.
2007-10-19 09:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tyra Banks did this as a topic of her show. It showed that... people under the age of 25 that get married are more likely to get divorced than people over the age of 25 that do get married.
2007-10-19 10:20:37 · answer #8 · answered by Operator 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does depend on the person. Some are ready at 20 and others at 30.
2007-10-19 09:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by Spring 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe timing is more important too. Are we financially ready? Do we have a stable job? Do we really love each other in that way?Are we compatible.? Have we thought of where we could be and where we would like to be in 5 yrs? I do believe that when you are truly in love that it all works out ...the road to happiness can be a smoother road if you are in true love.
2007-10-19 09:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by melisha s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋