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Question

I have been married for 7 yrs and still have not have had an orgasm. Is something wrong with me? i am 29 and have never had an orgasm during sex in my life!!!!!!!!! I have had other lovers before my husband and still never had an orgasm. I have never ventured "down south during sex" should i? is it wrong? does it make it better? my husband dont think so!!!!! does self touch make sex that much better for both? thanks

I really appreciate everyone's feedback. I am trying to take it all in!!! I am nervouse even talking about it so thank you!!! I feel my husband had given up on me!! Also I was told when I younger that masterbating was a "BAD" thing to do. So I do it every once in a while but always feel guilty afterwards. My husband is the best lover I have ever have but I still have never had an orgasm. Its hard not to think that something is not wrong with me. My husband is sensitive when it comes to even talking about it so because of that I am too afraid to even try anything "NEW"!!!!

Answer 1

um if u have never had a orgasm then I suggest u go in ur room now and do it urself cuz trust me it will take u about 5mins and the feeling or an orgasm is unbelieveable... Has a man ever done oral on u? Tell ur hubby to get a book on how to do it and then to do it on u right...not trying to be mean...

Answer 2

Most women need manual stimulation in order to achieve orgasm. I think it is less than 5% that don't. Thankfully I am one that does not need manual stimulation in order to reach orgasm. To be honest though I think the manual stimulation is much better and much faster. No it is not wrong. Neither is oral sex. You need to get to know yourself and how to satisfy yourself so that you can show your husband how to do it. Just think after 7 years of marriage it will be like getting to know each other all over again and that can be so much fun. I know being raised in a catholic family if you did any other position other than man on top woman on bottom it was a sin. Well guess what it's not. The way I look at it anything goes in the bedroom as long as you both agree.

I use to be very shy and naive when it came to sex and the bedroom and my husband has really opened my eyes. It is so much fun and we really enjoy each other. I hope you both take the time to enjoy each other now and EXPLORE! Have fun!

Answer 3

I never had an orgasm with my first husband during the 10 years we were married. I later found out it was because I needed more stimulation than he was giving me and once I knew how, it was the best thing ever! If you have a little gentle explore (not right inside) you will find your clitoris which is like a little button and is very sensitive to touch. There is no poking around needed, just a very gentle stroking and you will feel yourself becoming aroused. Once you know how to do it, then teach your husband to arouse you - both with his hand and with his mouth. Then you need to get on top and move so that your clitoris is still being stimulated by rubbing on your husband. And then, with practise, you will experience the wonderful feeling of orgasm(s) and, with patience, both of you together. You are just becoming to the peak of womanhood at your age and I hope you enjoy every minute of it. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

You sound like me. I have never had an orgasm through penetration alone. The first orgasm I ever had, was brought on by masturbating. Through the years, I have shown my lover how to do the same thing to me to give me a great orgasm. There isn't anything wrong with you, you just need direct clitoral stimulation. If you can bring yourself to an explosive finish, you'll be able to show your mate how to do so. I do enjoy intercourse, but it doesn't bring me to an explosive ending. Orally, I can achieve an orgasm, and you can too. Just venture out with high expectations.

Answer 5

yes touching yourself helps. You will find out that the secret to evey womans orgasm is her clitoris. Get yourself a clitty tickler and while doing it just ask him if he would mind if you played with yourself some. Trust me he should like the fact that your touching yourself in front of him, it should turn him on too. Its a slice of heaven honey. You will have your orgasm. Venturing down south is good too. If the guy knows what he is doing he will give you an orgasm that way too. Thats even better. But he HAS to know what he's doing, its all about the clitty. Watch a porno you'll see what I mean.

Answer 6

First, there is nothing wrong with you. It can be hard to have an orgasm during sex, but I would try doing different things to see what works for you. Self-touch can make it better. Or, you could use a vibrator. Sometimes my husband uses it on me to make things better. Good luck!

Answer 7

Its not you, its them. I too struggled with having orgasm for many years, I thought something was wrong with me too, I eventually had my first and fell head over heals in love, its the best feeling, Im not with him, and I dont have orgasm with my husband regularly, but sometimes I do. I would suggest trying different positions like let him hit it from the back, thats the only way I have them if he doesnt *** first. You should really experiment with yourself and let your husband try somethings on you. The only positive thing is you dont know what you are missing. I long for this other guy.

Answer 8

Wow. So, you've been married for 7 years, don't have orgasms and STILL HAVE SEX WITH YOUR HUSBAND? You need a rabbit or a bullet or a vibrator or something.

Yes, oral sex is a good thing, in my opinion. It is also easier for most women to achieve an orgasm with direct stimuli to the clitoris. Touch it, lick it, vibrate it, something...its time you had an orgasm.

I'm concerned that your husband isn't bothered by the fact that you have never had an orgasm???

edited to add: I keep hearing that your husband is sensitive about it and doesn't really want to discuss it, you really need to be PROACTIVE for yourself here, honey! YOU deserve sexual pleasure too, and i assure you...if HE were not having orgasms, y'all would discuss it and figure it out!

Answer 9

More than likely, there is nothing wrong with you. Most women have to "teach" themselves to orgasm...meaning you have to find what gets you to that point. You need to explore your body alone. Once you find what turns you on, you can make suggestions to your husband. There is nothing wrong with figuring out how your body works. Self stimulation provides your husband with a sexual visual that most men enjoy. This will also provide you with heightened stimulation. You might want to get a vibrator. This is sometimes helpful when women have difficulty reaching orgasm because the stimulation is more direct.

Answer 10

The only time I have had an orgasm during sex is through manual clitorial stimulation. With just sex alone, there never has been an orgasm. Try the manual clitoral stimulation and you may see it's better. Secondly, I don't like to go down there either but my husband likes it. I do it occasionally but...it doens't make it better for me, just him.

Answer 11

The orgasm is in the mind, have you really, really relaxed or are you all tensed up and feeling like it is a job - if you relax and let your body and mind be free and set the atmosphere using not just your senses and sensuality but using aromas and touching, tasting and feeling and being free and going down south you both will abandon and release and it will not be so mechanical and the juices will flow and the feeling will come along with the plusating and escalation.