What would you do in this situation?
You are having your period and you have very very very bad pains and you cant take pills. You ask your boyfreind to please make you some tea or coffee because that is the only thing that makes you feel better and he refuses. You ask him to clean up the mess you made in the kitchen and he says he is tired he would do it in the morning (in morning he leaves home dishes still unwashed) Plus you have two sanitary napkins (pads) left and you ask him to run over to the supermarket and buy some for you (you are giving the money) and he refuses.
Would you end the relationship . Is he being unfair or is it your fault?
Please I need some serious answers.
2007-10-19 01:32:28 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
We have been together for 2 years but we just move in together about a moth ago this is how he normal behaviour is i go to work then i go classes after work. If i cook when i get home and i ask him if he can at least wash the dishes after and he always tells me in the morning and doesn't do it. When i get home at night I just feel so tired and all I ask him for sometimes is a little help on weekends I wash his clothes press them and so on he does not have to lift a finger unless I ask him to, and I am a person who loves a tidy house
2007-10-19 01:44:45 · update #1
You are having a period, you are not dying. Get over it!
2007-10-19 01:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 3⤊ 17⤋
oh dear. this is not just about having your period, this is about having a selfish inconsiderate and disinterested partner. I disagree with those who say it's not important, because i think it's a sign of a deeper thing. Saying no to taking care of you during a time when you're unwell, is not right.
yes i would leave definitely, because he's not displaying any signs of loving or caring about you which is, after all the most important thing.
I'm not sure why you think it's your fault, has he said this? This is not a happy, balanced relationship, it's simply two people living in the same house. I don't know how you treat him and I don't know the whole story but he sounds like he's unhappy and you sound like you're unhappy.
my guy doesnt like to buy pads, but he doesnt hesitate because he loves me and knows i need them.
You need to leave and start afresh and so does he, and if down the track you want to get back together then wait and see what happens, but for now there is something wrong.
2007-10-19 09:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys didn't discuss chores before you moved in?? I don't know if I would end the realtionship. Have you tried talking to him about it??? I'd stop cleaning up after him. You're his woman not his mother. Make him respobsible for his stuff...he may get tired of it and come around. Some men don't get (understand) periods. And others do. However...it is nice to have a man that does... I don't think it's your fault. I do feel that you should talk to him about it. No one can tell you what to do. Only you know the whole situation. Good Luck.
2007-10-19 10:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Who is that red head??? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True sides come out when you move in together! Let me tell you, when my husband and I first moved in together I was disgusted. I whipped him into shape. He needs to learn to HELP and if he can't, then I wouldn't do crap. My husband would never help me do anything. So I stopped cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, etc. After he went 3 days without supper, no clean clothes, and moldy dishes...he got the clue and started helping real quick!!! Sometimes you just got to get ahold of your boy and let him know you are tired of it. My husband pretty much never had to do crap as a kid...he didn't have chores, yada yada...I had to teach him how to do things.....Sad, but....some people are raised like that, or they are just plain lazy! Give him a chance before ending a relationship over that....but maybe that is just the thing to do y'all in.
2007-10-19 10:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I sympathize with u I had the same problem with my ex, I had a opperation (Had syst removed) and asked him to hire someone 2 clean the house for a few days so I can recover, he did'nt ,he said he paid for the operation I should clean the house (we had medical aid which payed for everything!). I left that same day! I can't tell u what 2 do, but he sounds selfish to me. Good luck!
I have my new man trained I do nothing if I get nothing so that way he knows were he stands. If he doesn't throw his clothes in the wash it doesn't get washed, If he doesn't do the dishes with me every night it doesn't get done and he has to wash something if he wants it! My mom says I spoilt my ex!
2007-10-19 08:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by Pikkewyntjie 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
OMG first of all he is not meeting your needs demand that he does or he is out..let me tell you there are guys out there that will even go and get your personal hygenes for you.....how insensitive of him but I don think that you should use this as that excuse to get out of the relationship you parents brought you up letting you know that when a man LOVES a woman he will drop all to take care of her...man when I am sick my husband doesent even ask he just does all the things that he knows that I like done and the things that have to be done too
2007-10-19 09:33:38 · answer #6 · answered by ღOMGღ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is being very unsupportive but it can also depend on how you have asked him to do these things. Men can be very non-responsive to 'nagging', not saying this is what you were doing , but it can be perceived as this by him. I would suggest you have a serious talk with him and ask why is is so unsupportive towards you. I wouldn't suggest ending the relationship just yet but have a talk with him and find out why he behaves in this way. He may have had something else going on that was bothering him but being a guy he doesnt want to talk about it as he sees it as a sign of weakness.
2007-10-19 08:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
This from the same woman who claims that she is cranky in the morning and always gets into a fight with him. Blame it on whatever you want darlin, but at the end of the day, I think we can all see that you are at least half of the problem. Have a coke and a smile...oh and some serotonin.
Sheesh...even your avatar is angry
2007-10-19 10:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by Nunya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is the only issue in the relationship, no. If it is just an example of his behavior, I would consider it after having a discussion about your feelings and what his feelings are re the issue.
I agree that his behavior is selfish and unfair but perhaps he doesnt feel your pain is as significant as it is. Does he have sisters? How long have your been together? Is this a monthly problem with him or just this once? Need more info!
2007-10-19 08:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by Dee 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
get my butt off the couch and make my own,,,, he don't know how to work the coffee pot
dishes,,same as above,,, because he don't rinse off before he washes and leaves dried egg on my plates ,,,thats ewwwww
tell him if he don't want to go get the pads,,you will just get pregnet and won't need them for 9 months,, then he will be running faster than the flow,,, I would never end my relationship over something like that,,,
2007-10-19 09:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by mytic0420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of these answers have some very good points.
The only thing I can come up with, is that he's acting a bit funny. You should talk to him, see if anything's wrong.
If he's still rude, then I say it's time to break it up. You can't rely on someone like that for the rest of your life.
2007-10-19 09:33:37 · answer #11 · answered by cara_fairy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋