I was separated several months ago. During that time I ran into a old friend of mind whom I'd never spoken to for 6 yrs. The only thing I could remember was at the time he asked me to married, but I turned him down for I was too young and wasn't quite ready for any serious relation. I was 19, he was 25. He got married to an older woman he was kinda dating at the time. They got married several months after I said no then moved to JP. Two months ago we met and talked about old time and new. I told him I'm married and asked what happened to his. He said it didn't work out because he married for a wrong reason; he did not love her. They married to continue dating because he was transferring to JP for 4yrs, didn't want to do the long distance relationship. I told him I got married and it has been 5 now. So, I'm 25; he is 31. While talking, he revealed his feelings that I was the one he fall in love with and still was but the feelings was so strong that he had to run away from it.
2007-10-19 01:31:01 · 12 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Now by faith we met again. He said that the feeling still there and it grows stronger. I made it clear to him in the beginning that I still married, my husband & I still want to make this work.I want to give my marriage another chance, if it doesn't work this time, I'll call it quit. He understood. I asked that we be friends, nothing else. But for some reason he wants more than just friends. He would advanced on me. He cooked me food, did things for me. We would be on the phone for hours. If I came over his house, he insisted that I stay over. Until this last week when I spent 4 nights straight with, he felt uneasy. He said he wasn't accustomed to have a female in his house. He said it is too soon, but he was one initiated all of this. I thought I would spend w/him, but seem he just wanted a booty call, not someone to live there with. So he said I was acting like kids and throwing tantrum just packed and leave like that. we stop talking; he doesn't call or email me anymore
2007-10-19 01:43:14 · update #1
So is that love that he just suddently stop everything the calling the emailing and before I left he said I'm making the biggest mistake in my life to go back to my husband
2007-10-19 01:47:16 · update #2
The reason for separation was because my husband cheated on me more than one. There you see why I'm looking for something
2007-10-19 01:57:33 · update #3
seriously a husband is always the best infact bestest choice than a lover. if u have a loving husband then he is a lover isn't he.
i would stay stick with ur husband
2007-10-19 01:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, what does that tell you??
You made a big mistake for giving in to that guy.
The true reason you didn't marry him at the time, wasn't just because you were too young, but probably didn't like something about him which is still there.
He sounds like a user.
You've learnt your lesson the hard way;
Hope your husband is a great guy and can understand why you chose this guy over your marriage.
I couldn't advise you to tell him or not, it's up to you.
Good luck.
2007-10-19 08:48:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetheart, a GOOD husband will always be there and will be GOOD to you in bed, a lover will give you GOOD times, but he's going to go on with his life and drop you constantly, he'll pick you up and then drop you... now do you want that hun?
Now, since you're separated with your husband, you have this guy now and you're wondering if you should let him in... well, first off... are you separated? or divorced? cause there is a difference.
When separated, you give each other space and just live your life separate for some time to see if you two can live without each other, there is room for forgiveness blah blah blah... but in a divorce its a definitive separation and you're not going back... so here's my advice,
If you are separated, don't do this, because you will be cheating on your husband. If you are divorced, then date him, get to know him, if he does love you the way he says he does he'll wait for you to be comfortable and he'll show you what he's all about.
I hope this helps! Have a great day!
2007-10-19 08:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by VortexHunter 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the one you love is the best, I cant believe you let someone who feels that way about you slip away because of age, do you love him? If not , then you did the right thing. You are gonna end up hurting him, dont give him false hope.
2007-10-19 08:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In view of future and advanced age situation always husband is the best.
2007-10-19 08:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by lmdhamone 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
drop the BF like a rock and work on your marriage to your husband... if you can't re-connect with hubby divorce... and do not go back to bf... he just wanted a booty call. find new man after you are divorced
2007-10-19 08:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by Back W 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
regardless of what it is, doesn't matter. The fact that he's wishy washy and can't make up his mind would be enough for me not to want him. I don't have time for that kind of drama in my life.
2007-10-19 09:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one that you can forever depend on is best.
2007-10-19 08:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by Rev. Deb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wich ever one you want to have in your life.
2007-10-19 08:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
husband=security, monogamous sex, love, family,friend,lover
lover=sex,heartache,headache,suffering, STD
HOPE THIS HELP!!
2007-10-19 08:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋