I don't smell or have snakes in my hair, but a lot of people just do not like me from the moment they meet me. Men and women. I will hear how wonderful someone is and when I am finally introduced and I am so kind and nice and try to have conversation they will not really speak to me. The men completely ignore me and will not even look at me and the women just seem to stare at me and give me dirty looks and say bad things about me to my other friends. This seems like it is always happening and it is starting to make me feel horrible. No one seems to want to get to know me or give me a chance. Maybe I am over thinking things. I met my friends new potential boyfriend last night and he said hi and shook my hand and said NOTHING to me for the rest of the night and talked w/ everyone else. He wouldnt even look me in the eye. Plus girls I meet ALWAYS give me nasty looks & dont want to even try to get to know me. Any suggestions? Do people do this to you? Im really feeling bad.
2007-10-19 00:47:59 · 11 answers · asked by A little Southern Comfort 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I dress fine. Im mostly a jeans and t-shirt girl. Last night I had on a yellow and white dtriped Polo sweater and some normal jeans from Hollister and a pair of rainbow flip flops. I always dress like that or will wear a t-shirt. Nothing sluty or "weird". I dont know what else to do.
2007-10-19 00:49:30 · update #1
Same with me. Lots of people don't like me. But I also don't really like them back but it's hard cuz I don't have many friends. Anywho...
In your case I think women don't like you cuz you are pretty (you said women just give you looks) and men don't talk to you cuz they're probably intimidated. Don't let these insecure people get to you.
2007-10-19 00:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would almost swear that I had wrote this same thing a couple of years ago. So you wear jeans and t-shirts most of the time (me also) and women give you "looks" and men do not talk to you. I am guessing that you give off an aura of self-confidence (do not lose that) and excellent self-appreciation. Some women feel the need to degrade other women around them to make themselves feel better. I just met a girl recently, who has since become a really great friend quickly, she told me that the reason that she did not want to talk to me at first was because I gave of so much self-confidence in myself she was intimidated by me. But she was really glad she took the time to get to know me. I am now called the "redneck" of the group and I have since met a lot of great people.
Do not change who you are to adjust to other people. You must first continue to like yourself or people around you will treat you badly. you Will meet the person that will become your closet friend and with that will come a group of friends.
Trust me, do not change who you are, females are extremely condescending to the girls they think are there competition.
2007-10-19 01:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like you, and I haven't even met you.
Oh....maybe thats why. Sorry.
When I was in North Carolina, there was this girl at work who had this terribly annoying laugh. To the point that nobody would talk to her, for fear of saying something she considered funny. And it seemed that she could find something funny in almost any conversation. She was this really cute twenty-something, but nobody would go near her. In fact, we would always introduce the new guys to her, then excuse ourselves to stand back and watch. It was so damn funny to see their expression when they finally got away from her. They were new, so they were afraid to say anything, but it was so obvious that you could see it on their face. Great times.
Seriously though, Paris, I think it might have to do with how YOU come across to others. Ask someone who knows you. Since none of us has ever met you, as far as we know, how can we possibly give you advice?
BTW, you have never been to North Carolina have you?
hahahahaha (wink wink)
psst....there is a note on your back that says "ASK ME ABOUT MY STD"
2007-10-19 12:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by TNguy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem for years. I am friendly, a bit loud, intelligent, something of a know-it-all, not bad looking, dress in thrift-store chic---one day, about 10 years ago, I realized that there is just something in MY personality that turns some people off, period. It happens everywhere I do, so it is not THEIR fault. It is something about ME. And that's just the way it is.
I sometimes over-compensate for these people by being extra-nice to them, which pe$$e$ them off all the more, which is kind of fun...
just enjoy---sorry you feel so bad, but it isn't going to change...
2007-10-19 06:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason people find you intimidating and as for the girls giving you nasty looks I am guessing that you are very pretty. They are jealous. (pathetic!)
Try less talking and more listening. Ask them questions about themselves and use their name repeatedly like, "Susan, I hear you take jazz dancing. Is that hard to learn? D o you enjoy it?" Don't start talking about something YOU do and go on and on.
Focus less on you and more on how they're feeling and people will 'come around'. Good luck!
2007-10-19 00:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany I 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry about the women they are probably jelous because you dont need to dress like a tart to look good. Dont worry about them!
2007-10-19 00:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it's because they don't like you. human nature being what it is, people are unsure of any one they can't understand immediately. Don't worry about it. always remember, if someone doesn't like you then they show their own insecurities which is their problem and not yours. Just concentrate on developing your own personality and forget about them. People who behave in this manner are usually very shallow and possible don't have any "true" friends themselves.
2007-10-19 01:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by mandbturner3699 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see you know u aint weird and you dress good
there just jelous you look better then themm
i hav a friend stunning reeli nice and they do the same to her just becus she will always be better then them
dont worry and move on
2007-10-19 01:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be something you are not aware of, your style of dress, your conversation topics, your breath or it could be something like you don't really listen to people, just wait for your turn to talk or interrupt when others are still speaking.
2007-10-19 01:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by daniegirl917 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you smile? Do you really listen when people are talking to you? What about your body language? Try to Relax.
2007-10-19 01:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by just Reese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋