I'm a guy. I live in Kentucky, in a small town where people are predjudice and cruel. My very dad is as racist and prejudice as it gets, and i have several family members who are in hate groups (kkk). Should I or whould it be wise for me to come out, I've told one friend that I'm gay, but she's the only one. If I open up, is it worth the ridicule, is it worth the pain and adversity, is the possible abuse, the hate. As a 15 year old sophomore in high school I ask you is it worth it? Should I come out of the closet?
2007-10-18 19:58:20 · 14 answers · asked by Silver C 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Mr. Jello, i have nothing against your stance of opinion, were all intitled to such. But I must say i never said i had sex with anyone, I'm 15, gosh.
2007-10-18 21:45:52 · update #1
That's a tough one and i don't envy your situation at all. We live in a small country town and my daughter is a Lesbian, she told me when she was 16 and was also concerned about the prejudice she would suffer. Frankly, I don't think it's anyone else's business what your sexual preferences are, come out when you are good and ready. Those around you that truly love you and call you a friend will accept it, those who ridicule you, it's up to you decide where they fit into your life. If some family members are part of the KKK, what does that say about them????
2007-10-18 20:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by leolady0765 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose Ellen Degenerous' tale is the exceptional. She stored it a mystery for goodbye, and was once so depressed, that after she got here out, it was once similar to,"so?" Nowadays it is so average. Tell your buddy that if any person disapproves, they are no longer valued at being his buddy. His mom and dad probably surprised, (or they could even recognize!) however they love him, and they're going to both take delivery of it instantly, in any other case they're going to come round. Staying within the closet is the mistaken factor to do at the present time. Tell him to come back out, and what a load it's going to be off his shoulders.
2016-09-05 14:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at the age of 15 in that environment!!!! What you believe you would likely go through if you come out is not right, but you will not be able to do much about it for at least a few years. I am sure we all wish these problems did not exist, but the fact is they do, so you have to deal with it appropriately and intelligently. Good luck!!
2007-10-19 06:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by marystoy_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just terrible, my friend. Of course, you should come out when you are good and ready and feel safe. However, after what you have told us, I would stay in the closet until I had a safe place to relocate to. Do your best to find a support system who can keep your confidences and love you for exactly who you are. Best Wishes~
2007-10-18 20:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Zaggy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Confused,
Look, its simple as this.
You don't know if you should come out of the closet, well to me, If you think people wont accept you for who you are They don't deserve to know. For someone to tell anyone they have feelings for the same sex is like a honor, that should be cherished not ridiculed. For now, those who ridicule, don't deserve.
2007-10-19 12:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by Michaela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move out of the home first. If you want to have an adult relationship, you should behave as an adult. There is no reason to demand from your parents that they support you while you do things they disapprove of under their roof.
Why do you have to tell anyone whom you're having sex with? Why do you think anyone else is interested?
2007-10-18 20:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell them until you are independant and out of their reach. Honestly it is your own choice when you tell them, but i dont think its worth all that c**p unless you really need them to know. I dont think you should say anything until you are a long way away!
2007-10-18 20:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by Steffie_crumpet89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should come out when you feel good and ready and safe. i would advise you to keep things to yourself until you are old enough to be on your own. your family might not take kindly to you anymore if you do tell them right now. find somewhere safe to stay before you reveal your news.
2007-10-18 20:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by SportyT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.. people can be cruel... @ 15 one's sexuality should stay private... wait till you're older and away from there.. why stress about it, when you don't have to?
2007-10-19 01:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sounds like you should keep it a secret for a while longer until you finally move away from that place.
2007-10-18 20:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by DGH 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋