I need help with my dtr's anger issues. When she gets angry (which is frequently) gets out of control and worry about it a lot.
Anyone knows how she can get help and what kind of help I should look into for her? She refuses psychotherapy and argues constantly at home.
Any groups/books/therapy methods I can look into?
Thank you all in advance
2007-10-18 17:43:10 · 5 answers · asked by The_last_Amazona 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Your daughter is 21. She is at the age that she should be able to control her feelings. At 21 I would have her make a choice. She certainly isn't happy. It is her behavior and she needs to be responsible for it. Also if there are consequences she needs to be held accountable for those.
For some reason she is trying to keep people away from herself. Usually there is a feeling that precedes anger. It is often shame. There are many excellent books about shame. I would suggest that she begins there. Once she understands the cycle of shame she will be able to identify her behaviors. She can learn to know when the cycle is beginning and will learn how to shortcut it so it isn't a full cycle.
Good reading.
2007-10-18 18:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by Tetonka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please suggest a complete physical. I thought I was going into perimenopause. I kept wondering how LONG it was going to take as I've suffered hot flashes, cold flashes, night sweats and intense sudden ANGER since 2000!
I recently went for an annual gyn exam. I told my symptoms, physical and emotional to the doctor who I was seeing for the first time. He had a simple blood test done. My hormone levels, as far as menopause, and my uninterrupted cycles say I'm not perimenopausal. What I AM suffering is hyperthyroidism. It causes all these symptoms, including the emotional upsets. I am seeing an endocrinologist next month.
Your daughter's problems might also be physical. Good Morning America just spoke on this same issue today. Coincidence is weird. Seems Oprah Winfrey also recently was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and was also suffering mood swings. The thyroid is the second most important body stabilizing organ next to the pituitary gland. If it goes awry, it can cause dangerous malfunctions of the heart and other body systems. Please have your daughter checked.
Get your daughter to a doctor. Ask for a TSH level check and any other tests that may reveal a physical reason for her temper outbursts. It could be physical, not necessarily psychological. If it is a psychological problem, an internist can also help her see that and recommend treatment options with more finesse than a family member.
2007-10-18 17:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 and I know alot of girls who are exactly as you describe her. I've been with them at home and they are a wreck there. When out with their friends they are normal but when they get home they become a different person and are horrible to their parents. I don't believe it's a matter that that parent spoiled them or whatever people may say it's just something they do. Try going to some type of book store and getting books for her on teens and anger. I know she isn't a teen but that's exactly how she is acting. They have books called chicken soup for the soul and there are many of them. They are stories about people just like her and hardships they have endured. Maybe if she sees the error of her ways on her own it may help. Don't push things on her because it only makes things worse. She definetly needs some help though and maybe books are the way to go. She then can read them at her own pace and put the stories and life lessons into her own life. So, go to a book store and look up books for teenagers and adolescence. Hope this helped. Feel free to email me if you have any other questions. I have read alot of these books and they really hit home.
2016-05-23 15:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this...
1. Told her politely to do what she likes, and ask her to tell you how it's goin.
2. Be there when she hurts, and happy when she's happy
3. When she's angry, just sit back, and smile, dont argue with her. listen what she's talking about, and make her let it all out
2007-10-18 18:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jimmy N K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that the "If you want to continue living in my house, you will meet with the psychotherapist" method works well...
2007-10-18 17:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by xooxcable 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋