I'm extremely lucky to live in Alaska, where they pay you money every year just to live here. That being said, what do you do if your husband spends all that money (this year it was $3,308) on a truck and a gun? We had agreed to pay off bills with it....I guess my question is, how do I not get so pissed? The money's gone, and we can't just get a refund, so there's nothing I can do about that. I just need some tips to try not to get so pissed off about this. Thanks everyone!
2007-10-18 17:04:43 · 26 answers · asked by moosesandsnow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take the gun and shoot him, then run over him with the truck...and you'll feel better, because he won't spend money anymore....but your subsidie will be less with only one won't it? Maybe you aught not shoot him...just scare him. LOL
2007-10-18 17:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by Oldmansea 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Go to any local bank bright and early where you have money with your hubby and divided all of the money into 2. meaning if the net amount is 100,000 dollars, take out a cashier's check for 50,000 dollars and go to another bank and deposit an account over there under your name.
There are plenty of accounts that you can open up. Here is just a few of the many accounts that you can find in a bank:
1. savings
2. checking
3. certificate of deposit
4. mutual bonds
5. treasury bills
The list is very big but make sure you see the letters: FDIC OR FSLIC (meaning Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation or Federal Savings and Loan Insurance Corporation).
If you don't see these letters then you are risking your on money and it isn't worth it at all.
2007-10-18 17:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by conde_c_b 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
#1 divorce (the worst choice)
#2 sell his truck and gun for a few bucks and let him go ballistic (bad choice)
#3 talk to him (probably won't listen)
#4 get into counseling, both of you together (maybe a good choice)
#5 talk to all your relatives and shame him to death.
#6 Murder him (bad choice)
#7 Don't let him have any access to money.
#8 No sex for a month (please look me up)
#9 Take his paycheck and buy yourself something really nice
#10 ignore it and let it happen again and again.
He needs to be taught that responsibility in a marriage is a two way street. Counseling can help, but the thing I hate about that is sometimes it is PC run amok.
Peace
Jim
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2007-10-18 17:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
WOW they pay yall to live there how cool is that!!! you might be pissed but try getting over it theres nothing you can do now. once you get the money put itin the bank and make sure yall talk about bills first and what ever is left over spendit if you want to or wait just incase you'll need it some day.
2007-10-18 17:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Next year when you get your PFD..... have it direct deposited into your own savings account....that way he cant spend both of yours, and you can do whatever you want with that money...save it spend it whatever :) Just dont put him on the account so he cant access it.
Good Luck!!
2007-10-19 07:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by legends_chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course there's nothing you can do about it. Maybe you can tell him that it was more important to be out of debt and tell him how you feel. For next time make sure to save the money or split it in half. If I was you I would use the truck!!! =]. I feel sorry for you, that happened to me when my husband and I got our income taxes money.
2007-10-18 17:15:35 · answer #6 · answered by yeseniaf69 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Try to sit down and talk to him about responsibility. It is very hard to get a chunk of money and not spend it on wants, but it's something most people should do. Remind him that debt is a working mans enemy and life is just better not to have bills looming over your head...
2007-10-18 17:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by been_there_done_that 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Wow what a cool country. Keep the money in the bank and don't allow him access to your bank account. Of course, he could have SOME money to get him going, but do remember to save the money for rainy days too.
2007-10-18 17:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think that you have a right to be mad. when it comes to spending large amounts of money, you two should see eye to eye on how it's spent. maybe you should talk to your husband about seeing a financial person to help you set up a budget. getting rid of bills before spending really does help you get more for your money. i'm debt free, saving for major expenses, and still living my life to a standard that i love.
my advice would be to create a plan to get rid of the bills that seem to be a burden for you before you buy what seems to be "grown men toys."
2007-10-18 17:10:47 · answer #9 · answered by Adam 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Financial differences can ruin an good relationship. Seek professional advice or classes, consumer credit counseling service is the true, non-profit that can help you plan and budget, and reward each other for sticking to your plan with fun activities! I need to budget more and stay motivated, and my husband and I help each other stay on task and save up for vacations etc.
2007-10-18 17:13:49 · answer #10 · answered by kittykris2002 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Tell him,OK so you spent all the money on things you like now next year the money is mine to do with as i see fit and you better not say anything about it or i will leave your a s s high and dry.
2007-10-18 17:13:45 · answer #11 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋