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my older brother is gay.. im only fourteen and know im bisexual.. but im afraid that coming out to my friends will ruin my social life (etc) at school.. its a new school, im a freshman.

im confused. i know coming out to my mom is no big deal, shes the most understanding person.. im just not ready to.

2007-10-18 16:31:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender

7 answers

um gettin freaking tired of these comingout questions

first:
do you see straight people saying that their straight out to the their family and friends?
no

second:
if we want respect as being L,G,B,T etc than don't act special by wanting to come out.you dont see straight people coming do you?

third:
omg just live your freaking life normally and don't worry what other people think, if you meet a girl and then people say "your gay?!" then say "yes and so what?"

fourth:
this may hurt but if your family does hate you then not trying to make you feel bad but you have no family anymore. Family are people who stick by you and love you and care for you because they are part of you and you a part of them. but if they resent you for being gay then kicked them out of your life and just be thankful for them giving birth to you and being there when you needed them, well most of the time.


im gay and if my parents find out im gay and they resent me for it, i already know what im gonna do which is what i told you in the fourth reason.

2007-10-18 17:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Take your time. Coming out can be the best thing for you. Yea you might lose some "friends" but if you lose them then well they really weren't friends.

Are you not ready just because of the reaction? You don't have to tell everyone. You don't have to stand out side and scream it to the world. Just tell the people you feel need to know. Like your mom or a best friend.

Just like most things coming out sometimes takes babysteps. Once you start coming out you might just relaize how easy it is to tell people.

Best of luck.

2007-10-18 16:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki D 2 · 5 1

Honey, slow down. You are still so young. You dont have to tell anyone that you dont want to. Comming out was the hardest thing i ever had to do. i was so scared. so i waited until i was good and ready. It got to the point where i thought "this is me. take it or leave it. love me or hate me" But wait until your ready to do it. best of luck XOXO

2007-10-18 17:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

Just calm down. Talk to your mother first (once you are ready) and then, over time, build up strenght to fully come out.

2007-10-18 16:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by preppy_emo_kid2010 2 · 1 1

If your not ready then your not ready, keep in mind though that you are young, don't label yourself so quickly, grow up first..

2007-10-18 16:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jas 3 · 1 1

Maybe you should wait ,,,,
People can be very discriminating and cruel
keep it to yourself for a while

2007-10-18 16:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by 4 strings 7 · 2 1

give it time, you don't want to rush, but you should definatley tell your mom.

2007-10-18 16:36:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

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