The guy I was seeing was head over hill with me. He said he loved me 5 years ago when we first met, but I turned him down. He got married then divorced. I met him two months ago after five going six years of no talking. I've never attracted to him at the time but now I am. These last two months we spent some good quality time together, getting to know each other. Well, things didn't go that well. We got into some issues, his ex-wife (my issue) and my separation from my husband (his issue). I'm not fully ready for someone at the moment and my decision still pending to whether I would give my husband another chance or devoted to him. However, I started to fall for him hard, not physically but emotionally. Until recently things go down hill when I started to spent serious time with him at his home. He started to get upset with my stuff laying around, he likes to keep it clean. I felt like an outsider when he acted that way. I packed, gave back his key and left. Did I do the right thing?
2007-10-18 16:23:23 · 9 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I called him want to ask him question, what he meant when said that he wasn't accustom to have another person living with him, he cut me off, told me to go study. How could he say that when he was the person initiated all of this. I didn't want this to happen because I was in the middle of separation from my husband. He was like an angel; lean me his shoulders; wipe my tears when I cried; listen to me when I talk. He even said he will be there for me. I told him we were going to be just friends, but he didn't give up, he tried to show how much he loved me. I gave in, he changed. What is that all about? I'm confused!
2007-10-18 16:29:55 · update #1
I was more living with him. We slept in the same bed and everything, just that I refused to have sex with him for my own personal reason in this particular time. I wasn't considering myself as his guess at all. My husband would probably pick it up and leave it somewhere out of site instead of giving me the look, you know the nonverbal look you can tel what is on their mind
2007-10-18 17:15:08 · update #2
Have you been out of the game that long have you forgotten how everyone is on their best behavior in the beginning. OK so you got to see just a little taste of his bad side was it that bad. And why wouldn't you pick up after yourself i am like that if you come in my home you better not lay something down and leave it there. He was right it's his house and he likes it clean and organized. You being his guest should have cleaned up after yourself right there tells me you two are not meant for each other. Go back to your husband where you belong.
2007-10-18 16:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both going through a lot right now. It doesn't seem like the timing is right for you to start anything with him. Emotionally you are experiencing a lot. What reason do you have for your change of heart for him? Five years ago you blew him off, and now you are so attracted to him. Could it be because you need that adoration right now that he gave five years ago? The security of knowing he loves you more then you love him? Maybe he isn't ready to be that to you again because the last woman he gave his heart to hurt him. Maybe you are not ready to give back to him what you want him to give because you have been hurt too. All these things could be factors in your situation that you need to think about. Five years ago it was just you and him. Now it is you and your ex and him and his ex. It is more complicated. Both of you need to work on your own issues and take some time before getting too involved. You have found each other two times so far. If it is meant to be you will find each other that third time and hopefully it will be the right time too.
2007-10-18 23:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have a pretty rotten track record! You did the right thing. What you want is someone to listen when you have problems and just be there for you. When you got more than you wanted (a guy crazy about you), you still couldn't decide between him and you husband. that alone makes me think you just like the caring friend and not the lover. His complaining about your mess is one of two things: he is sick of being the only one in love and needs to complain or you are not compatible!
2007-10-18 23:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by NeeNee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out your marriage situation first. If you have issues with his ex-wife, surely he has issues with your current husband.
2007-10-18 23:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing. Now you can see why he got divorced in the first place.
2007-10-18 23:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you did. You really don't know him. I think you need to work on your marriage, take care of yourself, and figure out what you want out of life (partner wise).
2007-10-18 23:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by Windy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did...now go back to your husband...assuming that he still wants you...and work on your marriage....
2007-10-18 23:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety you need to give your marriage another chance...this is your wake up call
2007-10-18 23:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by Mommad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It obviously wasnt ment to be.
2007-10-18 23:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋