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2007-10-18 16:21:55 · 11 answers · asked by Soul Flower 2 in Arts & Humanities Philosophy

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A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother
don

2007-10-18 16:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4 0

How about praying to be evenly yoked? That is if you are religious. If you aren't at least be choosey who you have sex with and get to know the person for awhile. When you have sex right away (especially for a woman) you create something called "soul ties" and it is very easy to fall in love with the wrong person. Attraction matters but it won't sustain a relationship for the long haul.

2007-10-18 23:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You most certainly can if you have integrity of principles. EVERY emotion is a response to metaphysical values, which in turn are given their value by your epistemology. An epistemology that is not fraught with contradictions will create a metaphysical hierarchy that is not built on sand, and the person you fall in love with will correspond to your values.

2007-10-18 23:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I dont know why we cant control who we fall in love with but if the person is wrong for us we can direct our attention and emotions in another direction, but on the other hand if the person is perfect for you and your perfect for him just enjoy the ride! Love is very hard to find.

2007-10-18 23:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kiki from K-town 4 · 1 0

You can too, because I can. It is about bringing thinking and reasoning to the forefront and not allowing mad rampage of the monster called "love". We call it "falling in love" because it is not quality love. When we fall in love it is really lust-infatuation-attraction, not love. Love is patient, is kind, and may take a long time.

2007-10-18 23:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by Pansy 4 · 1 0

Because lust is the basis of romantic love and lust is instinctive. We can definitely choose who we enter into a romantic love relationship with. We can choose who we act lovingly towards. We can choose who we say "I love you" to. We can choose who we have sex with. But we can't choose who we'd like to have sex with, and that is where romantic love originates. That's why people who are butt ugly, extremely obese or handicapped don't often have people falling in love with them.

2007-10-18 23:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 1 0

I'd say it's because you /fall/ in love. You don't carefully climb down into love.

2007-10-18 23:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

in my humble opinion, i dun believe in falling in love. that said, i dun believe in love at 1st sight coz for me, that simply is juz physical attraction coz love at 1st sight is obviously.. well.. love based on sight. i dun believe in falling in love bcoz i believe we grow in love. every1 who r in love hav at least 1 thing in common eg; working at the same office, went for the same camp, or anything dat had made them met each other bfore dey started d chemistry. wen pplz meet, communicate n click, sumtimes things happen. sparks fly. this is y i say 'grow in love' bcoz love dun juz suddenly come out of nowhere. if it is, den its lust or attraction. we cant control who we fall in love wif bcoz wen our heart grew fond of that particular person, we cant help it but juz feel 'in love', warm n fuzzy all over. but taking it light-heartedly, as quoted by sum1 ( i cant remember who); love is a trick played on us 2 reproduce. hehe.. :P

2007-10-19 01:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by puple camel89 1 · 0 0

Because it all starts with good old 'Jungle Fever' ☺

Doug

2007-10-18 23:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by doug_donaghue 7 · 0 0

wow, ur right. wish i could, but then the fun would be out of it

2007-10-18 23:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by camorningsurfer 4 · 1 0

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