I dont blame her for having no trust in me...But AM I TRULY READY TO GIVE MY LIFE TO HER....I PROMISED MYSELF THAT I WUD NEVER EVER CHEAT OR HURT HER AGAIN..BUT THE PROBLEM IS THAT SHE DOESNT BELIEVE ME....I JUST NEED HER TO GIVE ME ONE CHANCE SO I CAN PROVE IT TO HER....I WANT TO MARRY HER AND HAVE KIDS....BUT TO HER...SHE DOESNT SEE IT THAT WAY....BUT I KNOW IT WAS MEANT TO BEEEEEEE!!!
2007-10-18 16:10:04 · 26 answers · asked by chi_south_kid1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You earned her trust and you ruined it. Its hard to earn it back and the doubt will always be there. Give her some time and some space. It will all be up to her. If she takes you back, good for you. If not, move on.
2007-10-18 16:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by smith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't really ask at question ... You cheated on your
girlfriend and now she doesn't trust you. That is a consequence of broken trust.
If you are truly serious about giving your life to her, getting
married and havings kids with her ... Then you need to be
prepared to do WHATEVER it takes to regain her trust..
Trust is very precious and valuable .... Trust between two
person should be cherished. When you cheat on someone,
that is a type of pain that wounds the soul and the spirit.
A person does not easily recover from that kind of pain. Hopefully you have learned to "count the cost" of your
actions ... in advance.
I don't know if your girlfriend is speaking to you right now. If
she is ... then ask her what it will take to EARN her trust back.
And, if she is NOT speaking to you right now ... Then you
HAVE to give her time to heal. After that time .... (only she
can tell you how long that would be) ... Then try again to
show her how sincere you are. If she yells, or screams at
you. Just "take it" and tell her how truly sorry you are that
you hurt her. DO NOT make excuses for your behavior,
Be honest and tell her that you were weak and selfish.
Again .... There is NO QUICK FIX to broken trust. And
unfortunately for you .... It is possible that you have lost
her for good. If you are truly remorseful .... Maybe it time
you can win her back ....
2007-10-18 23:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by kjh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Off the caps boy!
Ok you messed up and what is done is done. You have two choices. You stick around, beg and plead but then at some point she will lose respect for you. So it will be done anyway and you will have wasted much time and thought.
From what you said it is done so proceed from that point. So sit down w. her and have a normal conversation with that assumption in mind. You are sorry, you messed up, regret it and understand how she feels. Then talk about some nice things and remind her of when things were good... be yourself again. Then call it a night.
Begging will get you nowhere.
2007-10-19 00:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to gain trust back from someone. I wouldn't trust you either. I don't think you would appreciate her cheating on you, would you trust her from then on? I don't think you would. If you know you two were meant to be then why did you go out and cheat on her and then come back and are now ready to marry and have kids with her? That sounds like you wanted to have like a fling thing with some girl before you gained the title as husband. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2007-10-18 23:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are feeling the full force of what cheating does to a relationship. If it was meant to be, as you say, then it will happen, but not until you earn her trust back. That doesn't happen fast, it takes much time and you have to be willing to do whatever it takes to show her she can trust you again.
If she just can't forgive you, then it won't work, no matter what. All you can do now is to accept the consequences of your actions and do whatever it takes to gain her trust back, if she is willing to wait that long.
2007-10-18 23:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you have already told her these things and of course she doesn't believe you. The only thing that will change her feelings about trusting you is time and your actions. Although, even after a few years (speaking from personal experience) it will ALWAYS linger in the back of her mind. Just be true to her and make sure you don't cheat again!
2007-10-18 23:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by Ca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop going all "stalker". Don't vamp out. Get therapy, talk to a shrink.
You blew it. You don't get to go back. This is one of those life lessons that you cant have your cake and eat it too. Mourn, grieve, give the relationship its due.
Then grow up. If you were man enough to commit, then you would have done so before the thought of her leaving spurred you on. Trying to get her now is stupid. Even if you got her, you would regret it, because after she was "captured" and yours again you would just want to go chase other girls.
Grow up. Don't try to win a woman's heart if you dint intend to keep it, or treat it right.
2007-10-18 23:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should she trust you? You say you know it was meant to be, but she certainly doesn't now. If you were serious, you'd be more concerned about doing what it takes to earn her trust back no matter how long it takes, instead of whining about her not believing you now. You just want what you want without regard for her in any real sense. You say you promised yourself..... How do you know you can trust yourself?
2007-10-18 23:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke her trust and you probably broke her heart. Just because you "promise" you'll never do it again doesn't mean she can believe that. She may never trust you again. You may have blew your chance. It's a shame you didn't realize how much you wanted to be with her before you slept with someone else.
2007-10-18 23:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by ncgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would kind of wonder why if you felt this way you cheated in the first place. I don't blame her for not trusting you... once bitten, twice shy.
Look at this as a learning experience and better luck next time.
2007-10-18 23:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋