Is there really any pills to help increase libido? I need it really bad.......something that really works.....

Answer 1

Something many people do not really want to hear will help...
It is called time management. Huh??? WTH??? I would venture your day is running you and not the other way around. From the moment you wake to the point you go to sleep you are on someone elses time and not your own. Granted you have to work to keep the bills at bay but you need to look at how you spend your day. Look at all of your activities and put them to paper. Prioritize them. Prioritize them according to you and not your husband and your children.
Then put other activities on another sheet of paper. This time the activities are the ones you want to do. Anything from taking an hour long bath to a 20 minute power nap should be put on there. Find at least one activity on your daily list you can live without and eliminate it. Take your pen and strike it out! Then look at your list of things you want to do and see if it is feasible to put in your list of things to do. If not then go to the list of things that are holding you hostage daily and eliminate another. Continue doing this and eventually you will find some room for doing that thing you want to do...
Then take the paper and realize there is more to it than the list of things to do. You may realize that you only have room for taking that long bath one day a week...

Then you have to remember that your husband fell in love with you and not your body. I am sure it probably helped to catch his eye but there were more factors that caused him to take you for his wife.(Providing your dad didn't hold a shotgun to his head) No matter how good you looked back then there were a lot of good looking women out there. And if you hadn't captured his heart he would have just moved on after a time and found another and another and another.... Something about you is special and he knows it... It is why he is staying with you in your time of low libido too. This may be chemical but it also could have roots in mental as well...

Do you like yourself? Do you think you look good for your age? Or do you say you are fat, skinny, etc...
Try this trick that us men use... Yes I know men everywhere are going to try and kick me out of manhood because I am revealing a secret from the man's handbook.
Anyway here it is...
Take your shower/bath. Bathe as you would normally do ie shave from toes to appetite or whatever you normally do. Then stand in front of your mirror and look at what we see when we look in the mirror... Look for those things that would be considered attractive. It may be you only see your breasts as looking like they should. Don't see the swelling midsection. Look at the full cheeks of your backside. Notice it is firm like your husband likes because you notice everytime you are together he places his hands there. No he may not be saying d*** I love this about you. But if you notice he gives you hints and clues as to what he finds attractive about you through his hands mouth etc... Yes it would make it easier on you if he did but that comes later... right now you are just going to have to trust me on this he really gets into your body I promise. Anyway look at those things he lingers on and concentrates on. What do you see? Do you see what he sees?
Let me tell you what I see as a man looking in the mirror...
I see a 44 year old man in pretty good shape. I do not see the fact that my waist line has gone from 34 to 38. I do not see the flab hanging around my midsection. I do not see the ever decreasing muscles from my body... I still have a healthy amount of hair and it isn't gray so I see it... Truth be told I do not see much of my body because I see the good... Granted the good is all from the neck up... My eyes still have that look about them because I don't see the ugly things around them... So when my wife looks at me I try my best to catch her eyes and not release them... (Can't have her realizing I am fat now can I?)

Basically if you are like most people your life is running away with you and you have no control... It is up to you to take back control. Used to we had time to go and visit our neighbors. Now unless they have email we just don't spend any time away from our life... Understand we so not have to occupy our every waking moment with something... Do not let anybody else hijack your day either unless it is a real emergency...
Good luck lady... Take time for you and your life. Eliminate things that may seem fun but in reality drag you down...

Hopefully life will be good for you and your husband soon...

Answer 2

Far more important is to have the support and understanding of a partner who wants to help you defeat the problem - and who understands how to get you excited in bed. At present, drugs are do much relevance to the average woman who wants to pep up her libido a bit. I tried one to boost my sexual drive, and it really worked! For more female libido tips, visit http://www.getdivapills.com

Answer 3

There is a product that can enhance your libido. We have it in two forms, a pill that you take daily like a vitamin, and a gel that you can apply externally to help to get you in the mood. If you would like to contact me offlist, I will be happy to send you information. I am a consultant for a ladies in home party plan, and I am sure I can help. It did for me. :-)

Answer 4

I'd like to know, too. I do not have a sex drive, never had one. I'm tired of watching my husband suffer. I take lots of meds and any one or more may be contributing. Let me know what you find out.

Debbie

Answer 5

If you need it so badly try female viagra.
It works well for me. See info at the link below.

Answer 6

I do know that if u take alot of meds, like narcotics ad muscle relaxers it decreases your sex drive!!!!!!!!! Also if u have gone through menopause.............ask your doc if he will give u hormones, in fact, i was at my gyn today and asked this same question and they said that testosterone would help???????????? GOOD LUCKK!

Answer 7

ditto.. Id like to know too