I am a true believer in those that are young should be MOBILE! as in have a license and car to get around, probably because I stuggled and was never given anything like that when I was young, but so be it, my daughters need cars I have several to give to them, yet my husband makes jokes about it, like "we are not running a free car give away here...blaw blaw blaw..."
these cars where free or so, why not give them to the kids free or so? am I missing something here?
I want them mobile and its a big button not to be, I hate to have to rely on others or public trans when their mother has the cars for them, WHAT AM I MISSING?
I would crawl on my knees for the rest of my life to make sure my kids never had too, is this wrong?
thanks!
plus I want to destroy one of these PRESIOUS cars right now becasue it ticks me off to know end and he knows it!!!! thanks!
(oh and I would not do that, I just feel that way, plus all you that want to correct my spelling go ahead, see if i care)
2007-10-18 15:47:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Cars & Transportation ➔ Other - Cars & Transportation
and this is not about a bunch of spoiled children! its about what I own and should be able to do with as I please! after all any logical person wants better for their children then htey had and a car that gets them around though not the greatest thing is better than a poke in the eye, no?
2007-10-18 15:49:06 · update #1
I agree with you.....I had a car given to me when I was in the eighth grade and competed drivers ed. I gave my son a car as soon as he got his.....he was 15 or 16....I could not imagine not having wheels and the independence it allows you as well as them. It also teaches them the responsibility of having this privilege. Guys and their views are often quite different from ours.....I'd be a bit peeved though myself...
2007-10-18 15:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sage 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have cars to give, doesn't make it right. Your children should earn the privleage to use those cars. Are they good students? Show respect to parents and others? Do they take good care of the possesions they already have? Have they had drivers ed or taken and passed any state mandated classes? Can you afford to put them on your insurance?
Do you trust them to act in a responsible manner when drving?
You should really think twice...It is nice if you can help your kids be moblie, but it might come with a high price if the situation isn't well thought out.
2007-10-18 23:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by sreshowtime 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let them have the cars if you want them to have them. My mom was able to give my siblings and I newer cars when we were old enough, out of all of us I was the only one that put the car in my name and paid off the loan when I was 18. The other kids didn't, they left the cars in her name and complained the entire time that they didn't like what kind of car they had. She used this as a test to find out who she could trust in an emergency. I built my credit, and I earned my mothers trust.
She later told me this and now that she's gone I still have this memory of my mom telling me how proud of me she was that I was responsible. Maybe let your kids do chores to earn the cars if your husband is being a pain in the @$$.
I would still want to know where they are going and with who, I remember the stuff I did as a kid!
2007-10-18 23:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by poisonous_tree_frog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dad gave me our old 92' camry when i was 15 to drive around, then they gave me their '99 Honda CRV when I was 18 and took back the camry.... then my dogs outgrew the CRV so my dad bought me a truck for $6k when I was 21 and he took back the CRV.... I truely believe kids should have to work for what they want... If you are gonna buy your kid a car, don't spend over a couple thousand... Kids crash cars... I was a good child and never did, but did get plenty of speed tickets... Parents that buy their kids bran new cars piss me off because thats the dumbest thing you can do for a young kid.. Not many young peeps drive responsibly... If you want to do your kid a favor, buy a car (cheap one) make then get a job and then have them pay you back in payments...
My dad has helped me out alot since I turned 18... He helped me buy a house (gave me the downpayment) and helped me buy a better car... Doesn't mean I go knocking on his door for money.. I'm responsible, pay my bills and morgage... he just gave me a jumpstart cause he knew theres no point to me throwing my money away by renting.. sorry for rambling on...
2007-10-18 22:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by Louise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thinl they should have the cars. I ean there are other ways in teaching your children responsibility. Such as keeping up the maintenance on it, and keeping fuel in it. I mean just because you give your kids a car shouldn't discredit you as a "bad parent" , that your children will be "spoiled rotten". Who says? I think that that come early on in life. We grew up poor, and my dad gave me my first car. And I turned out just great! I know alot of people like that. But, I know alot of people that have had everything served to them on a silver platter since they were infants, and well they are spoiled rotten brats!! So there is a difference. I think that if your kids, will be fine. I think mom should let them grow up, give them the car, but let them learn, and have the responsibility in caring for it. Good luck mom!
2007-10-19 17:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was always brought if you worked for something and paid for it yourself, it made you more respectful of that property(in other words you took care of what you worked hard to get). Make them do some easy jobs around the house or your business then give them the cars as a reward not just as a hand-out. They will respect you and your husband more and feel good about themselves.
2007-10-19 16:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by 'Old & Cudley' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell hubby you're "not running a free sex giveaway here blaw blaw blaw" until daughters are zipping around mobile. Just don't give them a stupidly high powered one till they have some experience.
2007-10-18 23:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by hatbang57 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wonder what's peeving you so. Is your daughters' apparant immobility? Your husband's judgement? Or is it that you feel guilty about using material things to attempt to control others, even as those others are becoming more and more independent of you? So much emotion in your letter; so little reason. Quit being stingy in your munificence. Give with an open, vunerable heart. Love and open yourself to other possibilities.
2007-10-18 23:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by charlie_bethel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as they are not expecting you to take care of all the expenses. You haven't said how old they are, but if they can afford to pay for the day to day running costs then go for it.
2007-10-19 15:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first car my stepdad cosigned with me for and I bought it myself and paid it off, since, I've bought all my cars.
Put your husbands a$$ on the line and get him to cosign for a car hehehehe for the kids.
Works both ways
2007-10-18 23:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by WhereTheBuffaloRoam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋