i have this friend,and i think she is gay.What should i do!! I'm not sure she is but how do i find out??

Answer 1

whys it matter? whats it to you? if she is and she wants you to knwo.. shell tell you. if your a good person and friend youll just be there for her and be her friend and not worry about her sexual orientation

Answer 2

I'm afraid everyone came across a bit harsh... their point is valid that it should not affect the friendship either way, whether the friend be homosexual or not. But I understand your question to be in the same context as if you were asking "I think my friend likes my brother." Or "I want to know if my friend likes so & so." I may be incorrect, but I always like giving the benefit of the doubt.

My best advice, since this is a socially (although unnecessarily) sensitive topic- is to make it clear when it comes up in conversation that you appreciate the orientation even though you haven't experienced it or know what it means socially to be in their shoes, etc. The best way to help your friend (whether she is homosexual or not! - this is a huge friendship lesson, not a gay lesson...) is to be obviously open and supportive (not nosy!) so that she feels safe to talk to you about any topic. Good luck.

Answer 3

so what if your friend is gay. if you are really her fiend her sexual preference shouldn't matter to you. Her friendship should be what's important.If she is and you are so worried about it ask her a true friend should never be sacred to ask another friend anything that's why you are friends. if she says yes do you treat her differently . No because you are her friend and your friendship and closeness means more then who she is attracted to sexually. Or have you ever thought that maybe if she is may be you have made her feel not comfortable enough to tell you yet. sometimes people have to deal with issues like that on there own first before tell friends and family. So please remember that if she is really a friend then to love her regardless of what she says. otherwise you were never a true friend to her at all.

Answer 4

It doesn't matter who she plays tongue hockey with. If she is a good friend that you trust, have fun with, like to spend time with, whats the big deal. Getting lezzie isn't contagious. Just be her friend and don't make this a issue.

Answer 5

It's really none of your business. But asking her point blank can be offensive, embarrassing, uncomfortable, etc. I'd let it be and let her tell you herself, when she's ready. She's probably going through a rough time as it is or may not even know. OR may not be at all!

Answer 6

What if she's gay? So? What's the big deal? Don't tell me you don't want to be friends with her just because of that! Seriously, all of you people like you who thought that having a gay friend will cause them to fall in love with you is just thinking too highly of yourselves!
In my opinion, it's better for that friend of yours who's gay to not have a friend like you who is narrow-minded! Grow up!

Answer 7

Do you really need to know? I mean, it won't affect your friendship, right? If you really, really suspect it, and are almost one hundred percent certain that she is gay, then you could straight out ask her (although that would be risky). How about this: have her make a myspace account. On there, when you post your info, you have to post your sexual orientation. After she does that, go on and check.

Answer 8

Why does it matter? Just be a supportive friend, she might be going through a tough time.

Answer 9

What makes you think you should do anything? Why do you have to find out? If she's your friend she will tell you when she's ready.

Answer 10

well its none of your business unless shes wants to tell you. either way if shes your friend i mean a true friend it wont matter and if it does matter your not the friend she thinks you are..... good luck