I ask this because since my divorce a couple of years ago everyone seems to think i am "holding" on to my ex because I don't "get out there".
I do not long for my ex at all! I am alone as far as a "mate" goes. But, not "lonely".
I am focused on raising my daughter...if love finds me again..Great! If not, then fine.
Why do some people feel like I need a significant other to make me compete?
Has anyone ever made you feel that way?
2007-10-18 15:25:51 · 12 answers · asked by wanjoy 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Good 4u..ANA!:)
2007-10-18 15:36:45 · update #1
I am with you on this one! I was a lot lonlier when I was married. Yes, some seem to think I need a man to make my life perfect. I think I will meet somebody who cares for me, but I am fine until that happens. : )
2007-10-18 15:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by Alright 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat. I've been divorced for 3 years. I've dated 2 men in that time period. I haven't had anyone sirious in the last year and people (especially my mom) says that I need to go out and find a boyfriend. If I meet someone that's good, but if not, I'm ok with that too. I'm focusing on my son and my school right now.
2007-10-18 22:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ana D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people sum up your worth in whether or not you have a significant other. As if it's some kind of contest. It's offensive and honestly it's nobody's business what you choose to do with your love life. I'm 22, single and have no plans to marry anytime soon. My mom has a near death experience everytime a "date" doesn't work out!
2007-10-18 22:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Shazza Baby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I grew up in a family that the women identified with who their "man" was. My generation broke out of that way of thinking....thank heaven. For me loneliness has been during the day when my children are at school and I have the day to myself for the first time in 5 years. Some people are not so confident in themselves or it could be their mental attitude is geared that way.....Self love fills a lot of voids and actually makes you more attractive to the opposite sex than that scary clingy needy type.
Peace.
2007-10-18 22:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
on 11/04/5 _ when the doctor told my mom that i had ten fingers/toes meant that i came here complete i was a single birth which meant i came into the world alone being alone doesnt mean you have to be lonely after my separation from my ex-spouse as long as he was still giving me his pay check to take care of my children for 3yrs until i could get on my feet we had just bought a house & i didnt want to move my children into an apartment he of course did this for the first 3ys of our seperation upon the 4th yr we were in court for child support/divorce i made my children my main focus which is why i went out & obtained 2 more jobs once i did start dating i never brought anyone to my home or around my children for when i dated there was no need to involve my children for they were not the ones dating if a lot of single parents would practice this there would be less child molestation inside the home then a long time friend of mine surfaced & we agreed to try to have a son together for he needed a son to carry on his name & i desired to have male child i first introduced my friend of then 16yrs to my dtrs who @ that time were 9 & 6 i let them know that we were going to try to produce a male child i asked them if they would mind having another sibling they were excited & to this day this is the only man other than their dad they have ever seen me with we were blessed with a son (now 10yrs old) although my sons dad & i are not living together he is involved in their lives yes he includes my dtrs when they go to the movies or we go out to dinner which isnt that often but often enough where my dtrs dont feel left out my sons dad's family have accepted my dtrs & include them as part of their family every summer my son stays w/his grandmother, aunt, uncle etc he always comes back w/gifts from them for the girls my sons grandmother is more of a grandmother to my girls then their paternal grandmother
so being alone does not constitute being lonely bottom line
2007-10-19 04:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by nunya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, a lot of times I feel more alone when I am with a group of people, I enjoy my time alone, I learned a long time ago that you have to be able to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else!!
2007-10-19 00:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by Ginny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I strongly believe in this: "You can't be lonely or feel lonely if you like the person you are alone with"
And i know you just want some time for yourself and your daughter, to become closer and just be single :)
And like that Jessica Simpson song "I belong to me" states; "I complete myself"
2007-10-18 22:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Lil love lady ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes. But after working all day/night, sometimes I enjoy my "me" time. But I'll tell you, I sure would love to have someone to share my life with.
2007-10-18 22:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
actually im "Alonley" yeah feel free to use that word, its fantastic, youll be fine friend, just remember there are other things in the world than your ex!
2007-10-18 22:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was never lonlier than when I was with my ex. He was a zero in companionship.
2007-10-18 22:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by Dianne m 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋