Why is it that that I like to be demeaned, put down, and otherwise abused emotionally? My mind says I hate it! But in some sick and twisted way, I get turned on in a sexual way by this.
Is this something genetic, something caused by events in my life, or is it just a choice I made and am trying to excuse it?
I do have issues with depression and social anxiety. I just want some help.
Also, nobody in the world, other than random online people who know my screen name and not my real name, know this. Not even my therapist. And yes I see a therapist so please no cracks about me being an insane sicko or whatever.
I seriously want advice on what to do, or if i should tell anyone.
2007-10-18 14:30:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
you are a sadomasochist
The combination of sadism and masochism, in particular the deriving of pleasure, especially sexual gratification, from inflicting or submitting to physical or emotional abuse.
I sometimes am like that
sad but true
it turns me on to make someone suffer and then take that person in my arms
either that or u r a masochist
1. The deriving of sexual gratification, or the tendency to derive sexual gratification, from being physically or emotionally abused.
2. The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from being humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself.
3. A willingness or tendency to subject oneself to unpleasant or trying experiences.
2007-10-18 14:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you sound like the type of person who enjoys the idea of being dominated by women, in a sexual way. Meaning they are in control and tell you what to do and order you around. The fact is it is a normal feeling. Many people who in their real lives are Doctors, Lawyers, or business leaders enjoy not being in control in the bedroom. These kinds of people are in control everyday at their jobs and usually in their lives. They are what you might call Type A personalities. In the bedroom they do not want to be in control and find it enjoyable and a turn on to have a woman tell them what to do, and for the woman to in a way be their boss. So the woman takes the dominant role and the man is more submissive. I enjoy it myself. It's like you get to be the one not in control or in charge and there is something relaxing about it as well as sexually arousing when it is a woman telling you what she wants you to do for her and to her just for her own pleasure. I think you should say something about this to your therapist. He/She should know about this type of thing and be able to reassure you it is OK and even normal. Some people take this to an extreme and that is when it becomes unhealthy. I think you sound the same as many other guys out there, so I would not let this bother you to much.
2007-10-18 14:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is very common. Its called ATS (Attitude towards Sickness)
Its not a licensed disease, but its some sort of slang therapists and psychologists use to go with their patients
And no your not a sicko don't worry.
It happens with plenty of people.
I try to say this is the NICEST way possible, but you need to see a doctor, they will fix this.
Good Luck!
=]
2007-10-18 14:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by Chris Stewart 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone but you should tell your therapist. Your therapy can not be very successful unless you are honest with your therapist. This is something that obviously is of concern to you and causes you some confusion and self doubt. Tell your therapist and go from there.
2007-10-18 14:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by yurya2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no one thing that causes this. What you should really focus on is... How does this interest affect me? Is it causing me physical or psychological harm? If not, then I don't see the issue. If however, this is causing you or your family harm, then this is the difficult part. If your therapist does not do sex therapy, then ask for a referral.
2007-10-18 17:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by medinatherapy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people tend to grow up loving what was lacked in childhood. Maybe your parents were too nice? When they were mean, might you have enjoyed it, because it showed they noticed you? Talk to your therapist, and im seriousl interested, so email me if you cant seem to figure it out.
2007-10-18 14:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by michael c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's the most time anyone has said or typed some form of the word serious in a paragraph. I seriously think you deserve an award.
2016-05-23 13:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems this desire to be put down roots from your childhood. Were you verbally or physically abused by either one of your parents? Was your dad apart of your life?
2007-10-18 14:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Silver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would wonder if u had been abused emotionally as a child. if so, it would probably just be part of your mental programming that has stuck with you.
2007-10-18 14:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, it probably just makes you feel good, and dirty i suppose
2007-10-18 14:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by g1ngl9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋