A blockmate of mine in college appears to be the "Little Miss Sunshine" in our class because she always has a smile on her face and appears to laugh a lot. I used to like her company because I thought she was fun to be with, until she keept making seemingly ambiguous negative remarks about me in front of my other classmates, from the way I look to the way I behave. To make things worse, she always makes sure that she includes my other friends in the conversation and makes me feel left out. My other classmates eventually told me that she told them that she didn't like me at all, and I couldn't understand why because I did not even do anything to her. Help! =(
2007-10-18 14:18:42 · 6 answers · asked by etherealkisses 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Shes a bully and shes using others to do it to you. If youre bold enough to face her I suggest you confront her right where she bullies you...in the class. Next time she makes one of her remarks, ask her (loud enough for those she was talking to to hear) what it is exactly about you that bothers her so much. She wont be expecting a public confrontation and it might embarrass her to have to come up with answers.
After she replies you might add something about how she isnt in high school anymore and its perfect ok to behave like an adult now that she is in college.
Bullies do not like confrontations and if you embarass her everytime she pulls crap on you she will back off.
At some point you might add that friends are a lot more fun to have then enemies and that making enemies is self destructive behaviour.
2007-10-18 14:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't just take what she has to say in front of others. Speak up and don't be silent. If you can't find anything witty to say in return simply tell her "You know what? We need to talk. NOW." Pull her aside privately and then proceed to tell her that she may not like you but she does not have the right to go around talking behind your back or saying nasty remarks to your face. Tell her to grow up and stop being so childish. This isn't high school and you aren't in college to win some type of popularity contest. She can get over herself.
2007-10-18 14:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are people that will kiss you as they stab you in the back. This person must have a need to feel superior to other people and doesn't care how they do it. You must have threatened her in some way and she decided to use your friends as a way of putting you down. You probably didn't do anything, that you would see as threatening.Just go to your Friends and get them back and tell them that she is a psycho *****, that crapped on you for no reason. Your friends know you and should be supportive of you, good luck and watch your back .
2007-10-18 14:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes, subtle things can get back at someone.
Also, if you can't get her physically, mess with her mentally.
It works quite well.
Sources: Silence of the Lambs.
2007-10-18 14:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously shes jealous of you. the best way to handle it is just not to talk to her. totally ignore her! and as for your friends, hopefully they will see through her as well. if not maybe you should find some new friends.
2007-10-18 14:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
nothin says lovin like embarassment .. or smack her around.
2007-10-18 14:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Jackofalltrades216 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋