How can i talk to my mom about birth control pills? I have been dateing this guy for almost three years now and were ready but i dont want to do anything untill i know that im protected. I know about STDs and all the risks. I really dont know how she would feel about the subject and i just need some starters to get us on the subject.
2007-10-18 13:53:14 · 14 answers · asked by TIME BANDIT!!! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
So many people spend months looking for that special gift for their loved one for Christmas and birthday.
So many People spend "years" thinking of that special gift for Graduation, "sweet 16", 21st birthday, 25th and 50th anniversary and for someones wedding. (all these gifts will pass away, be forgotten or break).
But it seems that no-one thinks about that "Special Gift" for their HUSBAND or WIFE on their own wedding night.
Just tell your mom that you have not decided what you are going to give your husband as a gift when you get married but it won't be your virginity, and then ask her if she has any ideas. :>(
***by the way I am not weird for being on here I just got board from R&S and was wandering around and just seen it is "Adolescent" Sorry, but I still mean what I said.
2007-10-18 14:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure you are ready? Ready is not just ready for sex, but ready for all the responsibilities that can and do sometimes come with it...
It really seals a relationship at least most of the time for girls, I regret the first person I slept with and the 2nd and the 3rd. I wish so badly to have given my virginity to my husband, what a special gift that would have been.
Areyou prepared for if the Pill fails...If you aren't married, how can you be sure this guy will be there when you or a child might need him? I don't know you or him, but it is a question you should think about anytime you go to bed with someone.
What about STD's, sometimes you can carry them and not know it, have you asked said guy to get tested? Yuo would hate to get sommething permanent that you could possibly pass on to your husband one day, or possibly a child during child birth.
I would serious consider if those are sacrifices you could make just to do things now instead of waiting...
If so, then just be honest with your mom, she should respect your maturity for coming to her with this!
2007-10-18 23:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Job with taking the responsibility on your own shoulders not just on his. I wish more people would do this sort of thing. You could just tell her that you think you need to see a gynecologist and if she asks why you could say it's personal problems. Or you could say something like "Mom. ______(guys name)_____ and I have been together for a really long time now. We think we're ready to commit (less embarrassing then actually having to say Sex to your mom in my opinion) ourselves to each other. And if that happens I would really like to be safe about it. I want to go on birth control" She'll probably be shocked and you might want to reassure her that you'll still use a condom to protect you against STD's. Good Luck.
2007-10-19 01:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Bast 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have cramps during your period you can ask to be put on birth control to null them. Thats what I did. Its a lot easier conversation than talking about your sex life.
On a side note: Even if you've been with him for three years, having sex too young is a bad choice. I regrettably made that choice when I was fifteen. Fortunately my boyfriend then is now my fiance and that was five years ago! Not everyone is that lucky. Think hard before you lose it. You can never get it back. Good luck.
2007-10-18 21:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.Harbi 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you are showing us that you respect your mother. If your mom knows you have been dating for this long she probably knows your ready to explore and is waiting for you to come forth and be honest with her. I'll bet if you just went up to her and said, "Mom we need to talk," you'd be surprised how ready and willing she was to listen to you. Keep the lines of communication open because over the years whether you believe this or not..your Mom is your best friend and she loves and understands you.
2007-10-18 21:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by mrsbsy06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to be responsible :) Im assuming that your underage because you are worrying about asking your mom about bc, however, you can go to the doctor without her knowing and get it if you would feel more comfortable. It is awkward asking your mom for bc, but its much better than telling her you are preg or have an STD. I would just say mom, me and so and so have been together for a while and we arent doing anything yet, but I want to get on the pill before anything like that does happen. I know its not what you want to hear, but I have to be realisitc and its inevitable, and I am just trying to be responsible about it. :) Good luck!!
2007-10-18 20:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by Its just me <3 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
just ask her about it
by the way birth control doesnt prevent the spread of stds just pregnancy use condoms they work against both
2007-10-18 21:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you don't want to talk to your mom about it, just go to a planned parenthood. OR just straight out ask her. it'll be sure to start a discussion.
you could also go the route of saying "i'm not having sex, i just want to be prepared in case anything happens"
2007-10-18 21:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Lana B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can just go alone because the doctors have a law that there not allowed to tell anyone so just find a Doctor i did that
2007-10-18 20:57:01 · answer #9 · answered by A&F Moose 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Maybe ask when her first time was and then go from there
2007-10-18 20:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by Sam B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋