Should I Try to Contact and Old Friend?

Question

The situation is that we dated briefly in high school, but stayed friends throughout the years. I'm married now, and he's in a longterm relationship, but they don't live together. I don't want to get in touch so that we could rekindle anything. Even though we did date, we were friends first and foremost, and the dating took a back seat.

We had a lot in common, and there were times he was there for me when my own family should have been and weren't. For instance, I was in the hospital when I was fifteen, and my family didn't come, but when I woke up he was standing at the foot of my bed.

I was really ill for several years and things in my life went terribly wrong, and the same happened to him. Anyway, because of my illness I became really withdrawn and lost contact with everyone I knew.

I was thinking of dropping a note and a book I wanted him to have in his mailbox, and explain what happened. I wanted to let him know that even if we don't see each other (continued)

I still consider him a friend, and that if he ever needs help or feels like he doesn't have anyone in the world he can call me, but there's no obligation to. I just wanted to set the record straight, while I have the chance. And just let him know that he matters, even if we don't see one another again.

Do you think it's okay to do that?

No, I'm not trying to rekindle anything. I just wanted to tell this person they matter. In case we don't see one another again.

Answer 1

If this is the friend u want to return the items.??????? .
I would pick out a really sweet card..
write a short note..
and explain..
along with the items.. if they want to know more they will contact u.. they could of moved on and could care less... ?

This will take care of returning the items
and u expressing what u have or want to tell them
and u want be like saying anything in vain.. good luck..

Answer 2

I think its ok I like staying in contact it may be hard to sort out feeling threw the years though and remember her gf your husband may not appreciate you rekindleing .As long as you are certian its strickly platonic and theres no secrets go for it .We al deserve friends to last forever.