When I'm in school my fellow classmates always complain about stuff and say things like I will never do good on this test. I always try to say stuff like yes you will. How can I handle negative people?
2007-10-18 11:10:23 · 10 answers · asked by UnboundClouds 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
In my job, as a preschool teacher, I must handle negative people everyday. The negative people I have to deal with are not the children, however. Those kids are the reason I get up in the morning and I wish I could bring them all home with me. The negative people I have to deal with are the other teachers who have been at this for so long, they can't remember why they got into it in the first place. My boss is such a person. Today was a terrible day for me; at least she tried to make it that way. I sat back and asked myself this question: What is the worst that could possibly come of this day if I let her get to me? Then I thought, I'm not going to let her get to me. I put her and all the bitching that went along with her behind me and I had a wonderful day. Apparently, my good nature got to her because I'm being transferred to another building starting Monday.
I must say though that negative people can get to you if you let them. Sometimes they've done it before you know it. Just remember to stand back for a few minutes everyday and find a reason to smile and be thankful. Then negative people won't be so tough. Have a good day!
2007-10-18 15:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by ndn_ronhoward 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it does all depend on the circumstance.
Sometimes it is very difficult to be positive in the face of so much negativity ~ and, to not let yourself get dragged into its messiness.
An approach could be by asking the person, 'Say you are in Charge, you've got the the responsibility. How would you deal with the problem....? Bearing in mind, you take the blame if it fails and may well have to sort out the mess too'?
Sash.
2007-10-18 11:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By realising that negative people have issues (like every single human being on this planet) has, none of us are flawless although sadly there are people that are embittered with their lives, some who are just beginning to sprout into the big bad world and all the oppositions that face them.
In short there will ALWAYS be people that will say s hit like:
"Oh god my hairs a mess. Why cant I look like christina aguilera/Jessica Biel or any other gorgeous looking pop/media fabricated icon."
Or....
"I wish my grades were better cos I need to ace my sats so that in a couple of years time when I apply for that job in management it will be because of my qualifications as opposed to favouritism."
There will always be people like this, negative people. Just take them with a pinch of salt because in the long run people like this have to help themselves to be positive before anyone can crack their shell of self deprecation.
2007-10-18 11:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kingdiana Jones 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can usually only change their outlook about a given situation, not their outlook on life overall - unless you have a great deal of influence on them and a lot of time.
You CAN though sometimes change their outlook on a given situation by drawing them out, asking them questions regarding facts that demonstrate that the situation is not as negative as they may feel.
Help *them* to list all the reasons that things aren't all negative. It's not good enough for you to simply disagree, you've got to get them to think about the positive aspects of the situation by asking them questions, based on facts that support the positive aspects of the situation, they are aware of but are not considering.
2007-10-18 11:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just name her out on it! If she is pronouncing this she is absolutely simply watching for phrases to speak approximately so have a real speak query her.. comply with up along with her statements... eg: approximately Mario Lopez and he or she can not stand him goinging ect... say this again to that statment Really i have not spotted what makes you suppose he's a creep? at that factor you could have proper to agree or disagree! keep in mind real peers can are living without you agreeing at all times on the whole lot! my mother is simply too however i open speak to my mother i inform her she is being negitve and it's hurting my existence that i want her to be uplifted and now not so within the gap.. I imply matters aren't going the finest for her and that i do not count on matters to only be glad pass fortunate however a few postive routine for your existence is wanted i really like you and that i do not desire to look you so down and negitvie! do not get into examples so that they can simply harm right here emotions.. simply over all while your round me are you able to keep extra confident i want this help proper now! Well well good fortune It will paintings it out in the event you speak approximately it!
2016-09-05 14:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember that misery loves company. Try to stay away from them and remain up beat. Negativity breeds negativity. You know that you are a good person, stay that way!
2007-10-18 13:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by deb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't hang around them. Let them wallo in their own misery. they will never change. I know, I work with a bunch of whiners. Life just sucks for them all the time because they create their own reality.
2007-10-18 11:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by thebrowncowcool 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't handle them...avoid them. All they do is affect everyone's mood in a negative manner and you can rarely change them.
2007-10-18 11:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by Razorback 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
distance yourself from them if possible but if that is not something you can do then do not feed into there negativity. thet want a response but don't give them one.
2007-10-18 16:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by tony r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do,t know i am suffering from the problem
2007-10-18 11:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋