my husband and i split for the third time he always tells me that he is only in the relationship for our son?

Question

my husband never takes me out anymore he goes out of town all the time with out me and is always telling me i need to loose weight because after i gave birth to our son he says that i gained too much weight. i need to know if he loves me or not if i ask he never tells the truth he always answer an question with a question

Answer 1

try counseling if u really love him and want to be with him. staying together for the kids is never the right idea. they dont want to see u two hate each other everyday. they dont want to listen to fights. i know u would feel the same in their situation.

Answer 2

A. NO he doesnt love you , how do I know this? because if a man loves you he doesnt answer a question with a question and he doesnt go out without you and he doesnt tell you he's only in the relationship for your SON!!!!!!

B. Why are you subjecting your son to this day after damn day? Your his mother start acting like it , stop worrying about this jerk kick him out on his @zz and make him pay you allimony , child support and what ever else a judge would hand you , never hang onto a man just because you dont think your worthy to be loved.

C. Your husband sounds like my 1st husband , a self centred , self absorbed , selfish , verbally , emotionally and physically abusive @zzhole.

Stop thinking from between your legs and start thinking of that little boy he wont be better off with the idjit in his house raising him to learn its ok to be a Pr**K

Answer 3

Remember your wedding vows, however it sounds like he doesn't. In his own little unique way, he is telling you that he is embarrassed to be seen with you. This could be due to a number of reasons.
1. You have put on weight. As far as I know it happens to some women after childbirth. Did the same happen to your mother after she gave birth to you? If she did, forewarned is fore armed.
2. I don't think weight is the issue especially if he goes out of town without you all the time.
3. Check the signs. Change of hairstyle, clothing, image etc.
4. If he is only in the relationship for his son, he sucks!
5. Find someone who will love you (and your son) for who you really are and remember there are men out there who see true beauty and where it comes from, the heart.

Answer 4

your husband is immature, sees only what is on the outside, he is shortsighted, and shallow. he is someone who is not in touch with his emotions, and if he can't tell u if he loves u or not, he probably doesn't. if he is only there for the boy, why bother to try anymore or stay in it? because if he is finding so much fault with u physically than its only going to be a matter of time before he begins cheating and sneaking around behind your back. if he loved u he would never mention weight, or looks, because love goes alot deeper than the outward looks of a person, he just can't see the love u have for him, personally i would not want to stick around and be insulted over a few pounds. how many look as they did on their wedding day? not too many. but love is not about feelings or looks, love is a commitment to that other person, people do change, they put on weight, grow older, and get wrinkles. if he is basing his love on your looks, he is a very selfish immature guy.

Answer 5

No one here can tell you if he loves you or not, however it does not sound as if he is respecting you, or your respecting yourself for that matter. You really need to stand up to him and let him know you will not tolerate his harsh words, if he would like to see you loose weight so much tell him to excersice with you, regardless if you or he needs to loose weight it will be quality time together and release a lot of apparent stress and tension in your lives. Counseling may help, but if not in time it will be up to you as to what you choose to do, but remember if your husband does not learn to respect you, your son will learn that behavior as well. Good luck

Answer 6

If he can't give you a straight answer then it is a good indication the feelings just aren't there. Everything you have said is a sign also that he doesn't respect you. Respect yourself and end things with him. Get a good lawyer. You deserve to be with someone who loves you for who you are, not for what you look like. Once you are free from the degrading remarks you will probably be surprised at how much better you will feel about yourself.

Answer 7

If he is only in the relationship for the child then you need to get out. Not only is he mentally abusing you by telling you that you're fat, but he's also setting a bad example for your son. If you get divorced and both are happy, you'll both be better examples for him. Right now you need to think about your son. If he hears your husband abusing you, he could do that in his relationships later in life.
And I wouldn't be surprised if he's cheating on you if he's telling you he's only in the relationship for your child, and if he's going out of town a lot.
Please, for you and your son, get out of this relationship.

Answer 8

life is all about challenges, u ve got one now and u can overcome it if u face it. if u really love your husband , good enough u know he has problem with your weight, why not try and shed some weight. Be prayerful and happy that your child is atleast a binding force for now, some don't even have what it takes to keep their men. Believe me, soon as he advances in age like most men, he will be more concern with companionship than the "miss universe ideology " he will want to come home for love and not just to a slim beauty and u my dear will be there for him through your patience and determination. Amen.

Answer 9

Sounds like you two need to split for good. Everyone deserves to be with someone who will treat them with respect and love them for who they are. If you have to ask him if he loves you then there is really something wrong in the relationship. If your husband really loves you then I believe he would be showing it more and you wouldn't be having to ask him if he does. Best of luck sweetie!

Answer 10

If he loved you he would want to spend time with you. If he loved you he would accept you for who you are. If he loved you he would be truthful with you - and not lie all the time. If he loved you he would be willing to communicate with you openly, not deflecting your questions. And he tells you that he's "only in the relationship for our son".
Now ask yourself again - does he love me?

Answer 11

You must love punishment. It is time to give him the boot for good and give yourself self respect. This man is out to get as much as he can get, in other words selfish and a egomaniac. He does not love you be done with him.