I am so angry with my husband the last month to the point I have dreams of leaving him. I try to tell him what I need throughout this pregnancy and he totally ignores it. I wish I could just take our son and disappear I am so tired of him. I am so disappointed and very depressed. I don't have anyone to talk to as he doesn't allow me to have any friends. I just don't know how much longer I can do this. I try talking to him but its like he doesn't hear anything I tell him. I want out so bad. Any advice?
2007-10-18 09:56:44 · 11 answers · asked by Jennifer K 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
This is part of pregnancy. Feelings are often times exagerated. My grandmother always said that if you become pregnant that it amplifies your personality (the good and the bad) I know this is true now that I'm 37 weeks along...
However, it all depends on what your relationship what like before you became pregnant. If this is just your hormones its best not to do something you will regret in the heat of the moment. But if you are just finally unable to cope with an already existing problem, then you have some things to decide.
I know being pregnant is no fun sometimes. You just want it to be over with already. Just be patient and calm down. Try to look at the situation when you are calm and decide if it is just because of a bad mood, or if it has always been there...
Good luck and I hope that helps
2007-10-18 10:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by Heather R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey this sounds like what I went through with my first husband. I stayed with him for 7 1/2 yrs. His behavior started when I got pregnant with our first son. I almost left him then but didn't. After 7 yrs he started to have an affair then 6 months later left. It was the best thing he ever did. I never realized the life I could I had if I were to left him after our second son was born and things got really bad. But him leaving made me become me again. I am so much happier not being with him anymore. I'm now remarried to a great guy and we are now pregnant with our second child. Yes I still deal with the ex but that is because of our boys. This is a decision that you have to make not anyone else but please think about you and your son and the baby you are carring.
Good luck with the decision that you make and God bless you all.
2007-10-18 10:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Babyboy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to a family counselor and they will help you out. Some government agencies have them available.
Or find a friend, woman of course, one that can understand what you are going through.
Hospitals have pregnancy counselors. I think if you even went to the hospital OB department, one of the nurses would talk to you. They want to help you.
Everyone is depressed when they are pregnant so hang in there.
If it don't get better after the baby is born, or if he gets mean then leave for sure.
2007-10-18 10:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While he's at work make arrangements to stay with a friend or your mom or something and leave because that is emotionally abusive. Sorry that you have to live this way, it is hard when you love someone especially when there are kids involved. Relax and make a plan as it is important for you and your son to have a safe place to go, Pray because prayer does work. See about going to church, will he let you do that because because social at church really helps too. Men are jerks and we still love them, I know exactly how you feel Best of luck and be strong, for yourself and for your son. I wish I could be there to give you a BIG HUG and let you know that it'll be ok. and to take a deep breath.
2007-10-18 10:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by jmelee85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly, there is no right advice here, and no one who can tell you exactly what to do.....and with hormones raging it makes it even more difficult....you have to follow your heart....do you love him? Is staying with him whats best for you and your son? Are you just angry, or are you truley having problems that started before the pregnancy? Will he come around and be the supportive man you need him to be? Do you think maybe all you need is some time away? Follow your heart.
2007-10-18 10:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by MyDreams2Be 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i sort of go through the same thing with my boyfriend (except im not pregnant and we are not married) and it SUCKS! i never feel like he is there for me! like he could care less how i feel! when i try to tell him how miserable i am with him he just ignores me! guys are SOOOOO confusing! and selfish! good luck though! if u find out any good advise pass it on! ps if u ever need to talk my e-mail is torystark@yahoo.com (not that i wanted half the world to know that)
2007-10-18 10:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by *iN LoVe* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is so controlling that he doesn't allow you to have friends, then I have to ask if he's abused you. If the answer is yes, get out now. Go to a local women's shelter. If he's hurting you (verbally or physically) staying with him is giving him a chance to abuse your child.
Go to this site for help: www.nami.org. They can help.
TX Mom
2007-10-18 10:05:24 · answer #7 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is not letting you have friends and not letting you talk to him or being supportive, you don't need him! you should get out of that relationship, it sounds abusive and controlling.
2007-10-18 10:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by curiousin08 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's not going to be supportive leave him, he'll be begging you to take himback in no time.. ugh men can be such jerks!!
2007-10-18 10:00:05 · answer #9 · answered by ˚despeяate housewife˚ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your mom or a sister or a sister-in-law or a co-worker and just leave.
2007-10-18 10:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by SurelySarah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋